this is not funny,i have friends,but i stay away from them and am usually in my own little world,i have cried alot of times and remember them times,at school i sit on the bench at the front and imagine things like if i was someone else and led a different life,or think of dreams i have had,in the library i sit in the corner reading a book alone and do not enjoy talking to anyone anymore,to be honest my life has been hell since i started secondary school,i aws bullied two years and people still push me around,i have done terrible in my lessons and i shut my mind off from eveyrthing,even work,why am i happier on my own?why has life at school been nothing but misery?why me lord?i am a good person who never swears or is late to school,so why have i had such a terrible life?

There is a lot of people in your position but you have to make the effort to actually push yourself out of this cycle.

I had about a year phase away from all friends, basicly being lazy as I had left school.. same old day every day and nothing ever changed also I was quite shy and still am, but IM way more confident now.

Think of things you like to do and then go out and do them!, I liked music and been playing guitar for 5 years, I had spoke to people I knew on MSN and we made a band, we done loads of gig's and I wasnt a confident person at the time but I got up on stage infront of hundreds of people..

That sure made me more confident

I was almost exactly the same in Highschool. I was a total loser in middle school. I got picked on a bit too. I sorry to hear that you're being pushed around. i was also a loner in high school. I sometimes regret it. there were a lot of joys of highschool that I didn't experience. you shouldn't be afraid to talk to ppl. And never feel like you should be someone else. You say you're a good person so ppl will be able to see if you give them the chance. I know I'm starting to sound like an after-school special, but I'm telling you from experience. You're life isn't terrible. There is ALWAYS something to look forward to in each day. Please forgive me if I sound really cheesy right now.

Sounds like an normal teenage hormonal emotional imbalance to me. Although you may have gotten a bit more of it than normal. A course of Zoloft or Paxel might be a good place to start. Oftentimes emotional distress can be aggravated by your brains' chemistry..

You state you are a happier person alone. Maybe you have a fear of people not liking you for you. You state that you were bullied. Maybe you are scared of being pushed around again. Maybe you fear rejection of the person you truly arec and don't want to change how you are. so you stay alone. no fear by yourself. No criticism towards yourself. When you push people away makes you feel safe. This is just my opinion. Stay strong. 101

Yeah you should try not to think about what makes your life so bad.
And start thinking about what makes your life good.

Stay strong bro,its good you can enjoy your own company.
Its better to be confident alone than in a group,its shows leadership.
Puberty also is a factor,give it a few years and you'll be as happy as Larry.

the funny thing is my brother is a loner 2, and he gets in trouble 4 it. The high school thinks that sense he is a loner that he is going 2 come 2 school and kill every one. LOL my bro would never

mk ultra i am a girl...

Theres nothing especially bad about your life, spirit. If anything you have it prettey good. You just need a confidence boost, I think.

You're just very, very bored. Go get a new hobby, and push yourself, I knwo its hard, but you ahve to. In primary/middle school, your always being encouraged, but in secondary/high school, theres no one there to push you, so you have to push yourself. Its hard but well worth it

Oh sorry,hang on in there baby.
We all have periods of unhappyness,but its all good,you'll be fine and dandy before you know it.

Serously though...,being alone means you have an inner power and strength,,,,,dont see it as a weakness,see it as a sign of individuality?

Oy, that sounds nearly exactly like me... My heart goes out to you. People can be such jerks.

Its me too...

*sits in the corner*

Spirit: You're a lovely person. People on this board seem to think you need a confidence boost or to find a new hobby, whereas I already know you have confidence and you have hobbies of your own. The problem being, that these "bullies" wont allow you to have the hobbies you have without themselves having the urge to make a hobby out of bullying.

You are perfect in everyway, don't wake up in the morning changing yourself little by little to suit others because of outside influences. It's unfair, but know that there will be balance in all things. You are entitled to our support, or to any of your friends and family's. Make sure you claim it, it's all for you.

Be true to yourself, and continue being strong.

Highest regards
Chris L.

I am the same way. I don't have any close friends; and none that are girls. It seems they just don't like me very much, and we have nothing to talk about. I try to have intelligent conv. with the people at my school; but they are to young. All they are worried about is sex, drugs, cigs, boyfriends/girlfirends, and sports. I pulled myself out of the bad situation of sex and drugs, and don't want to go back into it. Oh well; maybe I will meet people when I get a job or somthing.

Eh, I wouldn't worry too much about it. I actually think the ability to be solitary is a plus. It helps you form your OWN opinions and preferances when you don't have all the background noise an overly social life brings. I say, stop worrying about it, and sh**, maybe hit some weights, eh?

don't worry too much....but if u really feel sick in the head please see a doctor.

Remember this guys and gals
You are still young and a lot of what you are going through is a phase...i have seen people that were very popular in school end up with no friends after school....they are different lives (school and out of school)
Concentrate on what you would like to do as whoa has said.Be happy and you will draw people to you ....it's true !.But to be happy sometimes takes the effort of getting out there and meeting new people...sport,music,whatever...Remember this many many young people have killed themselves because they see no end to their misery and they think no one else has their problems.....do you see how by even admitting it on here that you are not alone ? and that most people feel like this at times.
I'm 42 now but when i was younger i had about 20 friends that i hung around with constantly...we had a great time but as time went on and we all got married and moved away i was the same as you i had no friesnds for a few years...(except my wife)...so i came to know how loneliness felt ...the lonlieness of not having friends outside marriage that is.It was terrible but everything passes and storms blow over okay.
Hang in there you'll see it out.....and make an effort to mix ,if you're shy this can be a real terror but if you face up to it and try it will be well worth the effort.......good luck my little friend

Hmm.. Seems familiar? owe well i'm a loner i love to be alone though but people just keep coming wanna switch places? jokes no really though i'm not trying to critisize this but i'm a loner but people come and see me i don't want to have any one just try some thing. i like to hang out with loners!

Only thing i'm not a gurl though i love gurlfriends to be a friend with the opposite sex is cool because you already have what a guy has so why not be friends with a girl in a good fun way.

people call me a slut and a loser and avoid me like i have a disease

humans treat each other like dirt aswell as animals

They probably don't, you probably just imagine they do.

Don't take this the wrong way, but you seem to have quite an intresting defence mechanism. You say that you don't get along with people and prefer to be alone, but it actually seems as if people don't get along with you, and you wouldn't be alone if you could.

You're very insecure spiritwolf; a lot of people are. You just need a confidence boost

If you ever wanna talk, Walken is here.

Spirit:

You sound like you're living my high school years. I was often depressed, and I sometimes considered suicide. I refused to be swayed by peer pressure or hang out with the cool kids that had once been my friends in middle school. I didn't want to smoke, take drugs or have sex--I knew I wasn't ready for sex, and I had no desire to mess up my body with cigarettes, pot or drugs. I had too much pride (and unfortunately still do) and wanted to be unique. I didn't want to fit in with the rest of the people I considered shallow that made up the majority of the community in my school. As a result, I was bullied terribly. And yes, there are bullies in school, and some do treat others like dirt and animals. I know first hand.

For some reason, the outcasts and misfits always sought me out--I wanted to be alone, but I'd always have some poor stray puppy tagging along--and sometimes several of them, both male and female.

After four years of high school, I survived, graduated with honors, and moved on to college, which turned out to be a fantastic experience.

What did I learn from all of this? I learned that those stray puppies that used to follow me around were actually unique, marvelous individuals who had talents and gifts that weren't being appreciated by the "culture" of my school.

I learned that many of those "shallow" people I didn't want to imitate were actually real people who were hurting, too. (And yes, some were simply shallow jerk-heads and still are.) But I regret not reaching out more to others. I learned I was too wrapped up in myself--depression will do that to you.

I learned that this was just a phase in my life, even though at the time I thought nothing would ever change.

I learned to stick up for the underdog and never bully others. I learned to hate stereotypes, prejudice and bigotry. I embraced tolerance as long as it didn't conflict with my morals.

What I had that helped me through this period in my life was my spirituality and faith. Without it, my depression would have sucked me under and kept me from growing.

I think you will find that as you mature, your introverted ways will be modified, but you will always tend to be an introvert. I hope you find that your hard times will actually work towards making you a better person.

Now, another matter that really irks me...

Basically, there are two types of personalities: extroverts and introverts. For those who don't know, extroverts prefer being with people (are energized by it) and introverts prefer being alone (are drained by being with other people).

What I want to know is why some extroverts automatically assume there is something wrong with an introvert? I have had so many people in my life believe there is something wrong with me simply because I choose to only have one or two close friends rather than a hole slew of fair-weathered friends to party with.

You may always be an introvert. Just get support (like a good friend or your family), find something you love, or find something to believe in that is positive in your life. Give yourself time, and if the depression becomes too much, get some help. But don't feel you have to become someone you aren't in order to succeed. Just become the person you were meant to be.

And, yeah, I sound like an after school special, too. Groan.

HowdyDoo what you said there was actually quite inspiring . It's good to have some comments like that.

Please someone explain how this duscussion falls under the "Metaphysics, Astrology & Psychic Phenomena" ....

it does not matter what topic it is under!

Actually it does matter. Can't believe this hasn't been picked up yet, only a matter of time (I hope.)

I also hope that the advice and guidance that posters with more experience on this matter hasn't been taken for granted, SpiritWolf.

KERKIDO I HOPE YOU GOT THE MESSAGE I SENT YOU

the healing thing you gave me was useful.

Spiritwolf, I was like you.
Play chess and defeat them all and your name will be heard.
Play guitar and you will be admired.
Sing like a singer and you will be an idol.

High school and teen years is nothing but stress. Your not a loser hun, your just diffrent. screw all the other people who dont like you for who you are. If they are talking crap behind your back, then they must like you, since they keep talking about you
If you dont like someone, then why talk about them. heh see its true!
anywho, people think im strange when I like to spend my weekends alone, just resting and whatnot.

SCHIPEREL??? YOU CLAIM TO HAVE HACKED MY COMPUTER!!! I HAVE JUST CALLED THE FB!!!! IF YOU ARE IN THE USA THEY WILL BE BY SOON. IF NOT I AM SURE YOU WILL BE ON THE NO FLY LIST. YOU ARE A BISTID AND TERRORIST. YOU SHOULD BE SHOT OR AT LEAST BARRED FORM THIS FORUM

Spirit....I went through the same thing when I was in HS. I did two things (I don't know if you can do the first) FIRST = I changed schools to get away from the bullies (one was a teacher) and SECOND, I went after my studies with a vengance and became honor roll and city champion in debate and speech. Just grab hold of yourself and show your detractors that you can stand alone and still rise above them.

Are you could take kickboxing and smite them after a few months.


yes, moe is looking forward to his class reuinion.

I was like that in middle school. now im part of a crew, and we do wild stuff. i find that it's just a phase, and some come out of their shell early, some late. even if you don't come out of the shell, it's ok, cause people should and eventually will respect you for wo you are.

While everyone is in their own little group-thingys, the geeks, the ones who think they're god's, ect. I try to be alone, but noooooo, they want me to be in their little group-thingys. The group-thingys are always agrguing with each other and fighting and stuff like that. I just sit by and watch it. Cause it's funny. Cause it's kinda like t.v.

Main thing, I am my own group-thingy. I like to be alone.

it's wierd. I think people, as a social animal, needs groups just so they can get a feeling of belonging.

or someone to have in thier wills.

Wha?

I listen to music, that helps me get over my stress...making it expresses your stress, and then people help you .

Or you can imagine people around the world who have real problems.



These things always humble Moe.

^
From an old BC Comic strip:

"In moments of adversity
When life's a total wreck,
I think of those worse off than me
and REALLY feel like heck!"

Please tell us you were joking .

The FBI? Whats that number again?

Look at Scipherel's sig line. That's what jjtss is talking about. I admit I wondered about it myself, but I didn't figure it'd be anything sinister or he wouldn't be telling us about it.

OMG ! i'm in trouble, they had found my secret.

Now, i am a hacker claiming to hacked someones computer and should be banned from this forum because i am a bisted terrorist.
Can someone please judge me.

go bist yourself!! bisting bist!!