Full Version: Kicked out of my House
Just got kicked out of my house because of my beliefs. My parents are hardcore christian fundamentilsts. Me believing in Reincarnation, a God that isnt Judgmental and questioning the bible was too much for them to handel. And that I would read books on the subject was going way over the line. Now I gotta find a place to live. Anyone know anybody in my area who needs a roomate? Has anyone else on this forum been booted out of their home for what they believe?
Wow, that's just terrible. I hope everything works and you parents just might come around and let you go back home, especially since that's what being a Christian is about.
Yeah, not the most Christian way of acting. Talk to them about it......ask them why they have such a problemwith you having your own beliefs. If they really care about you then they will accept it.
Damn that's extreme and definitely not a christian thing, sorry to say it but your parents must be really fanatics, that's why I think religion shouldn't even exist.. there's only one God so why the need for many religions.. and good luck to you finding a new home.
Same thing happened with my friend... his step-mom kicked him out over a girl who he broke up with a week later! But, he graduated high school this year, so he's fine 
First when I read this thread I thought you were just a young kid... you are 19 almost 20... leaving the nest is a part of life.
QUOTE(Venomshocker @ Jun 26 2005, 09:15 PM)
Just got kicked out of my house because of my beliefs. My parents are hardcore christian fundamentilsts. Me believing in Reincarnation, a God that isnt Judgmental and questioning the bible was too much for them to handel. And that I would read books on the subject was going way over the line. Now I gotta find a place to live. Anyone know anybody in my area who needs a roomate? Has anyone else on this forum been booted out of their home for what they believe?
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that is just wrong are you sure that was all you did , sounds like your parents need a wake up call on what true christian love is all about!
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that is just wrong are you sure that was all you did , sounds like your parents need a wake up call on what true christian love is all about!
Tolerance of others beliefs is obviously not part of fundamentalist christianity.
That must suck, my household has 2 Ukrainian Catholics, 1 the other kind of cristian (whatever you call it) and an apeheist and we have never came in conflict with each other about religion. And no i'm not the apeheist. 
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First when I read this thread I thought you were just a young kid... you are 19 almost 20... leaving the nest is a part of life.
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I think your parents went a bit to far, but look on it as an opportunity to branch out and enjoy yourself.
Wow that's awful! I guess you can always turn lemons into lemonade and begin your life as an adult free from the tyranny of your parents...trust me it's much better than living with them.
Having said that it's not exactly the best way to leave the nest is it?
Having said that it's not exactly the best way to leave the nest is it?
Wow you are 19, and complaining about being on youir own. Isn't it about time for that anyway. Maybe that was your parents way of pointing that out to you. I put my 18 year old son in the street about 10 months ago and did not bat an eye about it. He thought he should have control in my house, sorry. Maybe it is the same for your parents, a little tough love.
QUOTE(twpdyp @ Jun 26 2005, 11:12 PM)
Wow you are 19, and complaining about being on youir own. Isn't it about time for that anyway. Maybe that was your parents way of pointing that out to you. I put my 18 year old son in the street about 10 months ago and did not bat an eye about it. He thought he should have control in my house, sorry. Maybe it is the same for your parents, a little tough love.
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How utterly terrible of you.
Perhaps I don't know the entire story, but from what you just said..
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How utterly terrible of you.
Perhaps I don't know the entire story, but from what you just said..
Perhaps I don't know the entire story, but from what you just said..
Ohh yes label me the worst monster you have ever heard of. Utterly terrible you say. I say an 18 year old who will not work, who will not help around the house, who sits on the sofa and eats and drinks all day without contributing one little thing is not going to do it in my house. How utterly terrible of me, please you sound like the rest of the wimpy bleeding heart "Ohh I swear it is not my fault" crowd. Being a little tough on a child is not going to kill them. For those of you who have yet to work in the private sector let me share this with you It's an excerpt from the book "Dumbing Down our Kids" by educator Charles Sykes. It went around the internet falsely attributed to Bill Gates. It is a list of eleven things you did not learn in school and directed at high school and college grads. :
----------Whether you like Bill Gates or not...this is pretty
cool. Here's some advice Bill Gates recently dished out
at a high school speech about 11 things they did not
learn in school. He talks about how feel-good,
politically correct teaching has created a full
generation of kids with no concept of reality and how
this concept sets them up for failure in the real
world.
RULE 1
Life is not fair - get used to it.
RULE 2
The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world
will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel
good about yourself.
RULE 3
You will NOT make 40 thousand dollars a year right out
of high school. You won't be a vice president with
car phone, until you earn both.
RULE 4
If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a
boss. He doesn't have tenure.
RULE 5
Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your
grandparents had a different word for burger flipping
they
called it Opportunity.
RULE 6
If you mess up,it's not your parents' fault, so don't
whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
RULE 7
Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as
they are now. They got that way from paying your bills,
cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about
how cool you are. So before you save the rain forest
from the parasites of your parent's generation, try
delousing the closet in your own room.
RULE 8
Your school may have done away with winners and losers,
but life has not. In some schools they have abolished
failing grades and they'll give you as many times as
you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the
slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
RULE 9
Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get
summers off and very few employers are interested in
helping you find yourself. Do that on your own time.
RULE 10
Television is NOT real life. In real life people
actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
RULE 11
Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for
one.
http://www.truthorfiction.com/rumors/b/billgatesspeech.htm
Could not have said it better myself. The above quote was falsely attributed to Bill Gates but no matter who said it it is so true.
My 25 year old son moved out about 3 months ago. When I met his naked girl friend in the bathroom at 3 in the morning he thought it was time to have his own place. My wife agreed. I kind of miss the Girl Friend!
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ROGER Posted Today, 11:56 PM
My 25 year old son moved out about 3 months ago. When I met his naked girl friend in the bathroom at 3 in the morning he thought it was time to have his own place. My wife agreed.
I kind of miss the Girl Friend!
My 25 year old son moved out about 3 months ago. When I met his naked girl friend in the bathroom at 3 in the morning he thought it was time to have his own place. My wife agreed.
I kind of miss the Girl Friend!
I am laughing my butt off, that is very funny Thanx ROGER I enjoyed that post very much.
QUOTE(twpdyp @ Jun 26 2005, 09:46 PM)
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How utterly terrible of you.
Perhaps I don't know the entire story, but from what you just said..
Perhaps I don't know the entire story, but from what you just said..
Ohh yes label me the worst monster you have ever heard of. Utterly terrible you say. I say an 18 year old who will not work, who will not help around the house, who sits on the sofa and eats and drinks all day without contributing one little thing is not going to do it in my house. How utterly terrible of me, please you sound like the rest of the wimpy bleeding heart "Ohh I swear it is not my fault" crowd. Being a little tough on a child is not going to kill them. For those of you who have yet to work in the private sector let me share this with you It's an excerpt from the book "Dumbing Down our Kids" by educator Charles Sykes. It went around the internet falsely attributed to Bill Gates. It is a list of eleven things you did not learn in school and directed at high school and college grads. :
----------Whether you like Bill Gates or not...this is pretty
cool. Here's some advice Bill Gates recently dished out
at a high school speech about 11 things they did not
learn in school. He talks about how feel-good,
politically correct teaching has created a full
generation of kids with no concept of reality and how
this concept sets them up for failure in the real
world.
RULE 1
Life is not fair - get used to it.
RULE 2
The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world
will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel
good about yourself.
RULE 3
You will NOT make 40 thousand dollars a year right out
of high school. You won't be a vice president with
car phone, until you earn both.
RULE 4
If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a
boss. He doesn't have tenure.
RULE 5
Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your
grandparents had a different word for burger flipping
they
called it Opportunity.
RULE 6
If you mess up,it's not your parents' fault, so don't
whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
RULE 7
Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as
they are now. They got that way from paying your bills,
cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about
how cool you are. So before you save the rain forest
from the parasites of your parent's generation, try
delousing the closet in your own room.
RULE 8
Your school may have done away with winners and losers,
but life has not. In some schools they have abolished
failing grades and they'll give you as many times as
you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the
slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
RULE 9
Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get
summers off and very few employers are interested in
helping you find yourself. Do that on your own time.
RULE 10
Television is NOT real life. In real life people
actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
RULE 11
Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for
one.
http://www.truthorfiction.com/rumors/b/billgatesspeech.htm
Could not have said it better myself. The above quote was falsely attributed to Bill Gates but no matter who said it it is so true.
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If i was your kid I would have moved out years ago, kick me out ha I would have left....
You think at 18 right out of highschool a kid can just start a life..? Help them, giude them,love them,teach them, tough LOVE hmmmm sounds like you just got sick of your child. Maybe by 18 they should have learned a work ethic, I started working when I was 14 and didn't move out till i was 22,and to this day my folks are the best
While I think tough love can do wonders, it's always important to remember that tough love is ultimately after all love and should never be done for trivial or personal reasons such as an ideological difference between child and parent. I believe it should only be put to use in extreme circumstances where nothing else is working and the child in question needs a push in the right direction. I have seen tough love in action most times the out come is positive, however we need to remember that sometime the negatives can out weight the positives.
EDIT: I agree Silver Thong, 18 can be a difficult age and most people don't have the skills needed to survive at that point in their life. As much as tough love can help a dismal situation a loving and guiding parent can do so much more. I personally wasn't ready to live on my own well into my 20's and I can never thank my parents for the guidance they gave me in those first few years after high school.
EDIT: I agree Silver Thong, 18 can be a difficult age and most people don't have the skills needed to survive at that point in their life. As much as tough love can help a dismal situation a loving and guiding parent can do so much more. I personally wasn't ready to live on my own well into my 20's and I can never thank my parents for the guidance they gave me in those first few years after high school.
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If i was your kid I would have moved out years ago, kick me out ha I would have left....
I had a long reply to this post but I will save it for those who deal in the real world.
But to be a little more on topic this was over one's beliefs, thats just wrong
It is so sad the things people do over petty religious differences or in the name of God. I'm sure we as human really hurt God by making him/her out to be some evil tyrant waiting to stike you down the second you do one thing wrong and cast you into hell. Thats really sad that some people can even treat their own children that way. My mom never kicked me out for my beliefs but she did throw alot of my stuff away and go through everything i owned any time she had the chance. She use to say that when anything bad happened it was because i invited the devil into the house because of the music i listened to and because i have runes and tarot cards. Funny how i have been on my own for yrs now and they still have the same problems there. One occasion i came home and found her in my room going through my cds and she had a pile of what she considered evil 
Tori amos was in that pile lol i laughed so hard because she was judging the covers of the cds instead of actually listening to them. I was very rebellious when i was younger so i did have alot of fun upsetting my fundie parents. I use to leave letters and stuff out purposefully for her to read but my friend and i would write crazy stuff like we joined a satanic cult and had mass gay orgies and alot of obvious bullcrap. But she always took it literal and made me talk to priests and people like that. I still get a good laugh at how she was. To me fundimentalist are proof that god has a sense of humor.
Tori amos was in that pile lol i laughed so hard because she was judging the covers of the cds instead of actually listening to them. I was very rebellious when i was younger so i did have alot of fun upsetting my fundie parents. I use to leave letters and stuff out purposefully for her to read but my friend and i would write crazy stuff like we joined a satanic cult and had mass gay orgies and alot of obvious bullcrap. But she always took it literal and made me talk to priests and people like that. I still get a good laugh at how she was. To me fundimentalist are proof that god has a sense of humor.
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But to be a little more on topic this was over one's beliefs, thats just wrong
But to be a little more on topic this was over one's beliefs, thats just wrong
Is it? My house has a standing rule if you live here you are going to church on Sunday or you don't live here. So if my 18 year old says I don't believe and I am not going to church then his choices become very limited. he can leave through the front door or the back. End of discussion. I pay the bills and can run my house how I see fit. If I say you must wear clothes in my house and he refuses then it is still his beliefs against mine correct. I win every time, my house my rules. PERIOD
QUOTE(twpdyp @ Jun 26 2005, 10:13 PM)
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The Silver Thong Posted Today, 12:08 AM
But to be a little more on topic this was over one's beliefs, thats just wrong
But to be a little more on topic this was over one's beliefs, thats just wrong
Is it? My house has a standing rule if you live here you are going to church on Sunday or you don't live here. So if my 18 year old says I don't believe and I am not going to church then his choices become very limited. he can leave through the front door or the back. End of discussion. I pay the bills and can run my house how I see fit. If I say you must wear clothes in my house and he refuses then it is still his beliefs against mine correct. I win every time, my house my rules. PERIOD
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It may well be your house,no doubt their, yikes But that is your child and if he has differnt beliefs then you, you turn your back? For shame
Does your kid run around naked if so i agree put some damn clothes on for god's sake.
I am sorry that your parents kicked you outa your house. but on the brightside you can start a new in the real world.
and I agree that this PC and other modern day stuff is completely screwing up my generation
and I agree that this PC and other modern day stuff is completely screwing up my generation
"my way or the highway" the ultimate statement on absolute binary thought processes.
ideology above biology. it makes no sense to me at all. parents can choose how they run their houses though, and how much they do or do not get out the relationships they build (or fail to build) with their offspring.
ideology above biology. it makes no sense to me at all. parents can choose how they run their houses though, and how much they do or do not get out the relationships they build (or fail to build) with their offspring.
im going to be 21 in august and i still live at home with my parents
im not in school becasue i cant afford it and niether can they, were in the bracket were we make too much for financial aid, but not enough for school - hooray for me
right now all my money i make goes towards paying my car and insurance which i had to finance and get on my own so its not cheap, esspecially with no credit history, all my extra money goes to food and stuff like toothpaste etc etc once my insurance goes down and i build my credit enough to refinance my car, ill be able to pay for school, so things are moving, just not as fast as id like them, but hey at least im deteremind to do what i have to...im just to smart to waste my intelligence on NOT going to school
i so wish that i could go to school and move out...it sucks so bad but at least i know my parents would never kick me out, they know im trying to do things on my own and they love the fact that they can help by just letting me stay here and not have to worry about paying rent, because they know i help my self too, see ive been working since i was 13, and have had to work for all of my things since then, this computer, my tv, my bed, my phone, my car, and the list goes on, i understand the value of a dollar and how important work is to live a normal life....if my kid was 18 and has never had a job and wanted to sit home all day...id kick him out too...i feel bad for some of my friends whos cars are still under there moms name, there mom pays there car insurance, pays for there cell phone bill, provides everything for them...when its time for them to move out and grow up...they are going to be starting at square 1, i will allready have the expieriance needed to succeed, i respect what twpdyp is doing to my full extent, and once they grow up they will respect what she did too, theres a point in time where you have to stop holding your childs hand and let them go, even if it means giving them a big dose of "reality check"
im not in school becasue i cant afford it and niether can they, were in the bracket were we make too much for financial aid, but not enough for school - hooray for me
right now all my money i make goes towards paying my car and insurance which i had to finance and get on my own so its not cheap, esspecially with no credit history, all my extra money goes to food and stuff like toothpaste etc etc once my insurance goes down and i build my credit enough to refinance my car, ill be able to pay for school, so things are moving, just not as fast as id like them, but hey at least im deteremind to do what i have to...im just to smart to waste my intelligence on NOT going to school
i so wish that i could go to school and move out...it sucks so bad but at least i know my parents would never kick me out, they know im trying to do things on my own and they love the fact that they can help by just letting me stay here and not have to worry about paying rent, because they know i help my self too, see ive been working since i was 13, and have had to work for all of my things since then, this computer, my tv, my bed, my phone, my car, and the list goes on, i understand the value of a dollar and how important work is to live a normal life....if my kid was 18 and has never had a job and wanted to sit home all day...id kick him out too...i feel bad for some of my friends whos cars are still under there moms name, there mom pays there car insurance, pays for there cell phone bill, provides everything for them...when its time for them to move out and grow up...they are going to be starting at square 1, i will allready have the expieriance needed to succeed, i respect what twpdyp is doing to my full extent, and once they grow up they will respect what she did too, theres a point in time where you have to stop holding your childs hand and let them go, even if it means giving them a big dose of "reality check"
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It may well be your house,no doubt their, yikes But that is your child and if he has differnt beliefs then you, you turn your back? For shame
Does your kid run around naked if so i agree put some damn clothes on for god's sake.
Does your kid run around naked if so i agree put some damn clothes on for god's sake.
No he does not, but if he did and it was his belief to do so, using your logic I should allow it. You cannot pick and choose which of your beliefs are to be your homes guidelines. If you do not allow smoking in your home and your son 's belief is that smoking is good and smoking in the house is better then once again using your logic you should allow that behavior. Beliefs do not always manifest themselves as religous beliefs. Beliefs can be behavioral, hygene, responsibility ETC ETC.... As for turning my back the rest of the story goes something like this. After 10 months of living with my ex-wife(his mother) he figured out just how easy it would have been to contribute around the house. He called me up and we talked. Now he lives at home again and if you were to ask him outside of my presence he would say he is a lot smarter for the experience.
I have no doubt that the expierince helped with the learning curve of life. Please smoking, staying up late,not working,drinking beer what ever, has nothing to do with "religious" beliefs. You did not state this earlier however you said if he didn't go to church your church he would be out the door front or back!
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Wow you are 19, and complaining about being on youir own.
Lol, im not complaining about being on my own, I don't mind that. I wanted to move out within the nxt 1-2 years anyways, its just this came as a bit of an early dismisal. Being that im a student still and am not working full time yet. I dont drink,smoke, do drugs or make lots of noise. I get along with my parents fine, as long as we don't discuss spirituality. Its not a hate relationship. My parents just cant accept me 'as I am' with my beliefs, so theyre kicking me out. I find its just odd that Id be kicked out over just that.
The minute you said they were fundamentalist christians I could predict the rest. Their beleifs were ground into them so hard that they are first hand.
The way they are acting is not the most christian, but now you get to embark in the great world of leaving your parents, getting an apartment and living in the real world
I'll meet you there someday
The way they are acting is not the most christian, but now you get to embark in the great world of leaving your parents, getting an apartment and living in the real world
I'll meet you there someday
I'd just go home and say....
"Mom...dad.... I've found Jesus..... and he's asked me to move in".
"Mom...dad.... I've found Jesus..... and he's asked me to move in".
I was booted out of the house when i was 12 as my ma and da split up and my mum who is a catholic got me baptised catholic and started draging me to chapell.
This was an on of of ocurence untill i was 16 then i left for good,it was the best thing to do when i was 16
This was an on of of ocurence untill i was 16 then i left for good,it was the best thing to do when i was 16
I have a friend who got booted out of his house for what he believed.
He believed in weed
He believed in weed
I come from a broken home too
I broke it myself when i was making the frog crazy.
I broke it myself when i was making the frog crazy.
QUOTE(ROGER @ Jun 27 2005, 04:56 AM)
My 25 year old son moved out about 3 months ago. When I met his naked girl friend in the bathroom at 3 in the morning he thought it was time to have his own place. My wife agreed. I kind of miss the Girl Friend!
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lol
Looking back I wished I'd moved out when I was 18 and explored life. Instead I went from my parents house to my married house.
Take this chance it could be a blessing in disguise.
Religion has a lot to answer for... I would much rather be thrown out than sit through some lengthy Catholic or Church service. Life can be a bummer but it does get better.
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"Mom...dad.... I've found Jesus..... and he's asked me to move in".
Subbys really gunning for the funniest member award!
QUOTE(Dowdy @ Jun 27 2005, 12:22 AM)
I have a friend who got booted out of his house for what he believed.
He believed in weed
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He believed in weed
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"Mom...dad.... I've found Jesus..... and he's asked me to move in".
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I agree!!!
If you were kicked out of your house how are you making all these replies to our comments?
Maybe a friends house or library.
QUOTE(Neo2005 @ Jun 27 2005, 10:18 PM)
If you were kicked out of your house how are you making all these replies to our comments?
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Maybe a parents hesitation to make such a decision, and alienate thier son
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If you were kicked out of your house how are you making all these replies to our comments?
LOL, Im at my gf's place atm, using her computer.
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