Shouldn't there be a group for divorced and seperated people her on Um.

We have every group imaginable. I haven't belonged to one. I fear rejection. As far as I know we don't have a group like this.

So if there are any divorcees and seperatees here.

We lend a helping hand,shoulder to cry on etc.


My story begins.

single mom, divorced since May 2005

I hope to get over the loss of my loved one. Or if you can call it that. He left me.
I want to better myself and help others.

Love 101

I don't know if this would be an appropriate place for this as I can imagine the posts would become bitter and intense?

As long as profane language is at a minimal. I mean,if it gets out of hand it will be taken care of by the mods.

But as far as bitter goes. I understand we all have issues.

You mean a group like the Steel thing?

Yeah, I got hitched one time and it lasted about 9 years or so..! We are still freinds tho which is a good thing cause our daughter loves us both which makes me happy....She's the most special thing in my life and I love her dearly...

What is the steel thing. Is it for divorcees. I thought it was for the unknown ones or something. But yeah why not we all need something.

@ DunderHead,

Yeah me and my ex-husband are also friends. Sometimes it is so hard though. Just looking at my daughters face in the morning reminds me of him. I miss him sometimes. Maybe we miss something because it is routine. I mean imagine eating a bowl of cereal every morning as a child. One day you have to stop and eat cereal and watch the news. Same cereal different tv show. Get it. Who says the freakin news is better then cartoons. I mean how can we know what is best?

I'm a child of a broken marriage and home. Sometimes I wish my father would say sorry and take responsibility, I really hate what he did to my mother and family!

@ super pancake, I am sorry I also come from a broken home. But both my mother and father sat down and discussed it. I felt better but did not understand. Sometimes Daddy's tend to stay away because they are afraid. My baby's dad stays away a lot also. But he works a lot. And when he is off he only gets her on his terms. She is sad too.

Hugs Super Pancake.

Thanks 101. I hope your husband do whats best for your family.

Also if you think about it. The father is usually the one who leaves the house. So they always are angry. Not at the children but themselves. Because they have worked hard to get everything and it gets taken away in about 2 secs at the courthouse.

Your Welcome Super Pancake. I hope he does what is right also.

I think thats the mistake most husbands/fathers do when the relationship gets rocky they leave the house often leading the judge to believe they don't care about the family. So the judge just strips away everything from them and give it to the wife/mother.

So it would be wise to stay home with the family even if the wife could be a pain in the neck.

Yes in many situations the father/husband is cheated. I mean my ex-husband never had a thing and then got it. Then he and I decided that I would get the house consifdering I am the primary care giver. I also think it depends on who leaves who.

Dad cheats on mom. He should lleave unless there is a pre-nup

Mom cheats on dad she must leave.

It is just common courtesy.

I don't agree on alimony either unless the wife has no prior ed or expierence.

Hi ya 101,

It gets easier through time your heart can be be broken and torn, crushed like a flower under the snow but like a flower in the spring, love will rise again to heal your pain..!

Yeh..! Give me cartoons anyday.. Spongebob squarepants rools...!!!

Good Dunderhead because I am definately a character.

Yes time heals all wounds. But depending on the size. One will carry a scar around that they are ashamed of.

I am neither divorced or seperated, but I think this thread is a good idea

I am neither divorced or seperated, but I think this thread is a good idea

This thread indeed is not a bad idea.....but a group?

Support thread okay Snake. You just likew giving me a hard time don't you sweetie.

Support thread okay Snake. You just likew giving me a hard time don't you sweetie.

I'm useless for anything else.

Love can cut deep but like I wrote to you before "There's no right or wrong in the design of love"..! True love is as pure as the driven snow..? I'm sure you'll find your knight in shining armour !

Aw well new models. Why not just get a paint job. Buy them a new pair of tires.

Your right Dunderhead we all have to stay strong and the right ones will come along in due time.


Hey um my step mom is a big fat italian mama. Why you think daddy wanted her. The Spagetti?

wow, thanks dunder....

That was totally uncalled for...

Wow dunder, that's a real polite thing to say! Do we have some issues that we need to address? hmmm? Perhaps your parents never taught you to respect other people? No, i didn't think so.

I was only joking..? You'll look beautiful on your wedding day..! Hoagy is such a lucky guy..
Sorry if I've made a plank of myself...My jokes are crap..!

WTF Dunderhead?

that was waaay below the belt, and yes, very uncalled for!

I will not have people talk like that about her, either on the internet, or in 'real life'...

Now I am MAD!

My parents are both dead..So I don't give a flying hoot what you think..!

Sorry mate..! It was only a little joke and it totally backfired..I'm embaressed now..Please forgive everyone...

Chill out and don't spoil this for the others.

I'm just apalled that someone can make such a rude comment about someone that they have never met! I wonder just what kind of a person does something like that? Are you a "big fat italian mama" urself and find it necessary to bring someone as nice and beautiful as Pandy down to ur level? Or perhaps you have personal experience with this occurance? Did u "cash" a person in for a "newer model" yourself? It makes me doubt your fitness for the label of human being truth be told.

Okay back on topic guys. No hard feelings.

Ok man, that's big of you to apologize. That takes alot of guts. U just gotta understand that we all like pandy a lot. what she dislikes, we dislike

yea..I will leave now, I should have known better than to post somewhere that didn't require my input..

so go ahead, get back on topic........

but my feelings are hurt...

Pandy, don't be pushed off this thread because of one individual.

I never experienced a divorce or a seperation - my heart goes out to all those who have.

*gives everyone a big HUG*

Well I'v been married twice, my first wife was my highschool sweetheart together for almost 11 yrs not married all of them of course, we parted ways on good terms just grew apart being together from such a young age.

My second wife on the other hand Yikes, she was an older lady 9 yrs my senior,and weel married 3 months and that was it,so the heartbrake on the second marriage hurt a bit more because it was so sudden.

Well single now for awhile and I like it that way me my pets and my little house thats all mine. At the time I thought it was the end of the world it wasn't it just takes time, some longer then others but the old saying is very true Time WILL heal your wounds.

Silver Thong, I think I own a pair of you. Your not that bad.

I am sorry about your past marriages. They say the second is usually shorter then the 1st. But then I can't say anything. I am the cat lady.

I hope I find a man who likes cats.

I know it will be better. Thanks. 101

Guilty I own a cat but don't tell anybody k

My parents just celebrated their 50th Sunday, Im going thru a divorce myself after 23 yrs of marriage..it suxs but I have 2 great kids..

I am now remarried and went thru a divorce after 7 years of marriage just 5 years ago. It's not an easy thing. Even when you know the marriage is doomed to end regardelss of how hard you try. I still have issues over it and probably always will because of how it ended and how bad it got during the divorce.

Lost Child- You sound like my mom and dad 28 years of marriage and they spilt. Sad really. They also had 2 kids me and my bro. We are great too. I hope everything will be the best for you.

Dr. As women we will always hold onto the hardtimes but what we should do is focus on the good ones. Then we will be able to overcome our issues. The sooner we get over them or get a handle on them the better

Silver Thong that is great you own a cat.

I do try my best to only think about the times at hand and not to blend or compair the two. But sometimes it's hard. I catch myself, at a time when old memories come back, compairing my husband to my ex. I know it's wrong and I do catch myself and apologize. There was alot of cheating and drug abuse and lying in my last marriage and in the beginning of my relationship with this husband I had very seriuos issues of trusting him. I'm a bit better about it now. But I do find that I get feelings and thoughts in my head alot.

Trust is the concrete base in a relationship. Without trust you walls will crumble. I understand I lost trust in my ex and I loved him dearly. But when you can't trust them then you are only fooling yourself. I am not going to be fooled with anymore. I know I compare other men with my ex also. But then I think about why we chose to seperate. Then I know it was for the best. Especially for my baby.

I'm in the middle of one at the moment..... and its doing me in slowly..... I never knew life could be so harsh.....

Aww....sorry to hear that but don't worry it does get a bit easier and you now have alot of support

Subtemperate,

I about called you subtemperment. But I know what it is like to be in this time. I was so confused but knew the solution. The hard part is going to court. Both my ex and I balled our eyes out. But all marriages end different. Ours was good. We were growing apart and he needed to grow up. Growing up is hard to do. and he was having major growing pains.