the love of my life committed suicide a year ago. He hung himself in my garage. Since then I've seen three things: #1) the first a few months afterward a mist or haze in my living room i came around a corner I was going pretty fast and couldn't stop I blew right through it. I was freaked out I dropped the notebooks I was caring I turned around and it was gone. I don't remember if it was cold or anything I just remember thinking to try to avoid it but it was to late. I have no memory of actually passing through it alough I know I did. #2) A few weeks to a month later I was vacuuming coming around that same corner and theirs a window directly in front of me. The blind was up it was evening about the same exact time as the first incident but in the dusk you can see your reflection in the window I looked up momentarily and their directly behind me was Kristian. He stood just directly behind me he was a head taller than me in life and I can remember that I could see his head and a little of his right shoulder he was wearing a white tee shirt. It was only for a split second, I looked up turned around immediately no one was behind me I turned back to the window and their was nothing. All I can say was that his expression on his face was nothing. just blank his eyes were like he was watching a television show. #3) A short time later it happened again in the kitchen as I was washing the dinner dishes about the same time of night, the shade was open I looked up for split second saw him exactly the same as the first time behind me with the same tv watching expression turned around turned back nothing. Am I going crazy? Is it wishful thinking? My mind playing tricks on me? Is it real? I'm not scarred I just want to know if I'm crazy. Kari

i've posted this in the ghosts section but it seems like this is a more likely spot. So here it is. Edit; merged identical posts.

For the sake of the argument, let's assume you're telling the truth. (Don't get mad, a lot of people B.S. on this forum).

My first reaction is that you're grieving. You may not be in the proper mindset to look at this rationally. That said, you are NOT crazy. You might be hurting and looking for comfort but that doesn't make you crazy. It's likely that it is your mind playing tricks on you. But if it isn't...

My suggestion to you would be to talk to him. If you believe in a higher power and you believe that you can still talk to your significant other and he can hear you, then talk to him. If he really is visiting you, he probably just wants to know that you know he's OK. Ask him to come to you in a dream. Loved ones often communicate that way. You will know that it's not just a dream because it will be different. When a spirit communicates in a dream, it's usually a lucid dream. Meaning you know you're dreaming and you know that something is up. You will usually have all of your senses working. You can see, hear, touch, and even smell the person. You will remember every detail of it when you wake up and you won't forget it. It will stay with you.

Good luck with your healing. I know how hard this can be...

Edit; removed redundant quote.

Hi , welcome to the UM , i think that maybe you are experiencing one of 2 things or perhaps both 2,

1.

maybe he is very lonely and miss you , maybe he is trying to be with you, he comitted suicide so heis soul must be in real pain , maybe he is still traped in this world unable to go to heaven or hell and when that happens spirits are supousdly very very lonley , or maybe you miss him so badly that you just dont let him go to the other world.

2.

Maybe you miss him so badly that your mind creat flashes, images of him that really arent there , maybe its just that you miss him and wish to see him again , sometimes the mind can create a lot of diferent types of illusions , that didnt mean that you are crazy just that you have to accept that fact that he is gone and go on with your life, sometimes we think that we just cant stop thinking and crying for those who die because we feel that if we do, we will stop careing about them or that we are betraying the love we felt for that person but thats a mistake, is not easy but is necesary, when my father died almost 2 years ago i felt that was a pain that will never end, i just couldnt imagine me without crying and wanting to bring him back to life, but later i understood that love is more than that, you can remember him every day and keep loving him, thats all right , but maybe you are not willing to let him go , maybe a psycologist will help you , not a psyquiatrist , a psycologist, this things take time but can be solved.


i dont think you are crazy.

Hi there sweetheart,
This is very common in suicide victims unfortunately that you can see him in reflective objects. I am sorry that you have had to deal with such a hard deck of cards lately. It maybe a residual hating where he has looked at himself in the same window or it could be a intelligent haunting. What you need to do is talk to him and tell him that all is forgiven and he needs to go to the light. From what I understand the light is only there for 72 hours after death. So what you may have to do is tell him to get into the car with you and go to a cemetery. I know this sounds corney. but there he will definitely find the "light" from another death and burial. Tell him that he needs to go to the light, that he will not go to hell. He must of have some mental issues to go through with the suicide and God understands this and forgives him immediately. His family and friends are all waiting for him on the otherside and that he needs to go. Make the light sound like the most important thing and let him know that you are fine and will be happy if he goes to the light. Please email me if you need any future ideas on how to get him out. Also remember that if all this is done and you still see is reflection in the window it could just be a residual where his energy was so depressing that it left an impression on that spot. If you need any local cleansing of the house email me and I can help there too!
Take care and God bless,
Nicki
http://www.ggghost.com

I just wanted to point out that none of us know for sure what is going on here or what to do about the situation. We don't know for certain (since we're not dead!) about whether there is "the light" or how long it lasts or whether there even are ghosts. My point is that we can't replace a good psychological exam. If you are struggling with the death of your loved one, you should talk with someone about what you're feeling. We can discuss whether or not your loved one could come back in ghostly form but really we're just speculating. Even if we rule out emotional trauma, we still can't tell you for sure what is going on here but I think in time you will be able to come to your own firm conclusion.

the thing about the lucid dream will only complicate you, dont get complicated, really, dont expect every night about dreaming with him, its kind of tourture, but about talking to him i agree, just tell him that he can go in peace and that you love him and always love him but that you both have to go on, sometimes that will work..

I brought up dreams because she is looking to find out whether or not he's actually there. A lucid dream would indicate that she wasn't seeing things that he actually was visiting her. One cannot expect to have frequent visits from a departed loved one in their dreams. Often this only occurs once after the person dies. Perhaps, I should have clarified that.

I have something to add and its even stranger than my own experience. I was watching ghost wispier with my daughter shes seven. we were talking about how scarry it would be to see ghosts and she piped up its not that scarry I say why do you think that? She replied I saw kristian in my window. I've never told my daughter of my experanice and no one else has ever told her I've never even mentioned it anyone but my best friend and we weren't even in the house or near my daughter. The hairs on the back of my neck stod up needless to say