I am trying to find a good Christian guy. But it is so difficult.

How do you attract a man?

What do you do?

I don't want a friend but a boyfriend. I have already got enough friends. I want someone to go on dates with. Not just talk to like a girl.

It is so confusing.

Help me please.

Well, I wear short skirts, and it worked last week

But I doubt that will attract a good Christian guy. Maybe you could go to church?

Yeah. Mom said you don't get Christian fellas by wearing low cut blouses.

I go to church. But I think the baby scares them off. lol.

hmm...just strike up a random converstation with said male...and don't be shy

Damm. You live in the US. I guess I'm out.

smile....

Yeah. I mean what could it hurt.

I tried that once and it worked. lol.

I will try this tonight. See what happens.

Speed dating?

good luck...there is nothing wrong with flirting and that "getting to know him" part

I usually attract weirdos...probably because I make a scene where ever I go

Oh thanks.



Darknight- thanks for the advice. I will be sure to smile more often.

But not too much- or they will think I am Lol

go to your church and get to know the male population there. Talk to them. Get to know who they are not by looks but by whats inside.

good luck on trying to find a nice christian boyfriend.

mac

What is this? lol

Thanks mac.

I don't recommend speed dating...the reason I can't post on here...101, just think like me for a second and you'll know why...

Aww yes now I know. PS I googled it and it had pics. lol. I am so embaressed.

Just be yourself...trying too hard usually backfires....

One of the main reasons I asked is that I have a 4 yr old daughter. A lot of men are afraid to date a girl with baggage. I don't think this is a good reason to just dismiss anyone. I never have ever said I would not date someone because of their kids.

I believe it is hard to find a man because of this. It is really hard to find someone when it has to be good not just for you but the kids too.

You don't need a man necessarily. They can be nice to have around.....but just wait till the right one comes along--and he will--......you have the ability to live a productive, happy life without a man.

I think it is great that you have a goal to find a Christian boyfriend... and I assume that is because you are also Christian.

I would also only date Christians when I was growing up... and of course my Hubby is Christian.

Not that I think non-Christians are bad people... a lot of my best friends are non-Christians.... (so please .. no one take it that way)

It's just that if you are looking for a life long partner... it is best that you are both "equally yolked"... that is have the same beliefs... so when you have children together, you will want to raise them together with the same beleifs.. and having the same beliefs in a marriage, makes the marriage a lot easier.

~Nxt2Hvn

Well I know I don't need a man. But male companionship is something I like to have. When you are not even having a male to kiss it becomes a little lonely.

But I think it will be great to just try dating. I never have dated in my life.

It was always a little different. I did group stuff not one on one connection. This is something I will want in a relationship.

Might I suggest slipping a ruphy(sp) in their drink? Nah just kidding. If you are a christian girl paint your toenails red and wear open toed shoes. That's a good way to strike up a convo..LOL Trust me Im catholic and boy do I get people talking with the red polish.

Red nail polish works no matter what! Fire engine red....can't go wrong.

Yes. I will try the red polish.

This is seductive but not bad. It sounds good.

'Happy' perfume.....I've gotten lots of compliments on that one. My own personal favorite is Ombre Rose....that smells very very good. Oh, and Lola Goth...Reminiscent.

My first recommendation is to stop looking for a boyfriend. Sure, you find somewhat that you can do a more advanced version of 'hanging out' with that way, but it won't be the romantic relationship that you are looking for.

As tedious as it seems, the best way to get a boyfriend is first to make friends. It makes for better relationships. Since you are looking for a good, Christian guy, start by asking your local churches if they sponsor any weekend activities. Most churches will have picnics or parties going one, where the young members of the community can meet and interact. Go for friendly, with a tease of something more. Don't come right out and say you are looking for a boyfriend (trust me, the kind of guys who will run with this might not be the kind that you are looking for), that turns most guys off, or at least makes them cautious. A little flirtation goes a long way. Stick with that and be subtle.

I really am not looking- well yeah. But I have been friends with this guy for 3 yrs and it goes no where. We just hugged for the first time the other day. And we go to lunch every day together. It is very aggravating. I suppose it will be worth the wait someday.

Thanks.

They do have a college and career class at church on Sunday nights. But it is hard to take a 4 yr old in there. She gets to hyper.

Then I am going to suggest something that I have no business suggesting. Most guys, and my female co-workers have pointed this out to me fairly regularly, are somewhat clueless when it comes to changing relationship status. Once a guy has made a girl a friend, he will generally take a very long time to realize that the possibility exists that the girl friend may be interested in being a girlfriend. It's entirely possible that the friend you just hugged a few days ago is currently undergoing some inner turmoil concerning you (it is also possible that he hasn't even thought about it, but let's be half-full here). A hug is a good start, keep going with it. Hold his hand, and make it clear that you are reluctant to let go. Lean on him when you go out. Sooner or later, he is going to twig onto the fact the you are going beyond the call of duty of a simple friend. Make it clear without saying a word that he is being a little slow on the uptake, and that the relationship already exists; all you are waiting for is for him to realize it.

Thanks. That was very good advice.

Flirt.

It is always when you look for a guy to date, you never find one...but when you least expect it..one comes along

Why does he have to be a good christian guy? Religion shouldn't matter when it comes to dating someone. My BF & I are both from two completely different religious backgrounds and religion never gets in the way, I don't love people for their religion, I love them for just being themselves!!

Anyhoo...I am sure if you just be yourself the right Ned Flanders will soon come along

Hey Diddly-Ho Neighbor-inos?

Mr Ed, I think I will practice that.

BM, it seems easier to be in a relationship with someone who at least is the same religion or respects your religion.

Look, BM . . . . most of the people answering here are women and are they experts on what appeals to a man? No, so listen . . . .

First of all, men read eyes. Eye contact is important. A lot of times women don't want to make eye contact because they think it makes them appear forward. Don't believe it. Let your eyes meet his and then look away but quickly return your eyes to his face. The message of this is that you saw him the first time but it didn't register that there was something special about him so you had to look again.

It is good to let your eyes do your talking for you. Men will take it from there . . . .

OMbre Rose..it smells soooo good. I wear Beautiful and I get alot of compliments on that. Oh and scented lotions are really good. When I was working at Lowes I bought a very cheap thing of hand lotion to take to work with me. It was simply basic's sun-kissed plumeria. I got sooo many compiments on that stuff and believe it or not I only paid $1.50 for it at walmart. Goes to show it doesn't have to be expensive to smell expensive.

Cool. The eye approach. That sounds good. It is suttle but not to forward. I like this one too. Good advice.

When did I claim to be an expert I just told 101 to be herself!!! And it's the best way to be is yourself IMO.... and maybe when she least expects it the man of her dreams will enter her life, thats usually how things tend to happen..ok for some not all before you say anything else LOL

I got married.

when i was single , noone noticed me...except for the guy i marrieed... than after that one, i seem to be a hit ?? LOL

My BF respects my religion, he don't care what I was, who knows 101 you may find yourself falling for some guy that totally sweeps you off your feet that you can't help falling for and he turns out to be from another religion but still respects you for your religion well I am only saying

Flirting..if you are going to flirt..there is a big difference between 'Flirting' & flirting....if you where to go over the top with it, you will land a guy in no time...but not the right one...so I am sure you know how to flirt in the right way to catch the right man for you

LOL....I know what you mean! Single and not one person looks at you twice....get involved with someone and all of a sudden you're stopping traffic.....go figure....

When you are chatting to someone you don't know, tell them a little bit about yourself, like a hobby, and then ask them a question about their hobbies. Finding out something about the guy shows that you have an interest in them, and that you can find something in common to talk about.

The right guy will also show an interest in you too, by asking you questions about yourself. When it comes to Mackenzie, he will love her too, but (and it is not easy for us mums lol) don't make her the focus of conversations.

Well thanks guys for all the advice. It is good really.

Oooops . . . . I thought that you had started this thread, BM. My apologies, dear lady.

lol.

Yes but the men know what men like and are attracted too. lol.

I also think that if you push a guy, they will turn and run. So take a step back and let them give you an idea if they like you too.

So don't try to contact them 15 times a day, give them a day or two, and if they have not contacted you, they might not be too interested. If they do, they will be so nervous to ask you on a date.

And for god's sake, take it slow. Don't push for an answer straight away, get to know them first. See if you enjoy each other's company. If you laugh a lot then IMO you get on well, and it could be a long-laster. Take each day as it comes, and enjoy their company and talk about common interests.

Actually you have just hit the nail on the head 101...you may get the best advice coming from a man as long as it's not smutty lol

"Smutty?" "Smutty?" Men are NEVER smutty! Well, maybe a little sometimes. . . .

I usually have no problem with men. But the thing is. There is a man I like. He says hi to me every day at church and flirts with me. He is divorced and a little older. He is 30 + yrs. So it is scary to think that I could be liking an older man. That has kids and I don't know how to say anything to him but "hi"

I get all nervous. lol. And he is a bit shy himself.

That used to be my problem I was to clingy and expected to be contacted all the time...no flaming wonder I had my a** dumped...I soon caught on..and began to take my time and contacted them every 10 mins instead of 5 Im so kidding what I really mean is I took my time and contacted them every 2 -3 days then twice a week..soon went to once a week and the longer you leave it..the more they are keen to hear from you and will call you poor ole me learnt the hard way like everything else

Ok... here's my serious five cents about this.

if a guy hasnt noticed you yet, its cause he is dumb and its his loss!

you dont have to do anything for anyone to notice you.

The right person WILL notice you, even if you just finished washing the hoggs yard, or pyle the cow menur!

and thats my humble op

lol. This made me smile. Thank you very much.

Ya know a lot of good christian men & woman place ads in their local paper to get a partner...why not try that?!!