QUOTE(Bella-Angelique @ Aug 16 2006, 08:58 AM) [snapback]1310391[/snapback]
As the daughter of a Korean War Golden Knight and the stepdaughter of a Vietnam War Marine, I had two close examples to compare with other fathers, as well as the fathers of my friends and my husbands three tour Army Vet father.
Doesn't change what many of us had to live with, like it or not. It is necessary that one lives the time before commenting on it. No history book will, nor can history possibly, describe those times except in a manner that excludes what we went through. Many of us were considered insane violent maniacs and were avoided for decades after the war. For example, my son wanted me to take him to some silly war movie: in this movie, one of the bad guys got hit with an explosive round in his middle, and it naturally blew him into pieces. Well, I couldn't help myself and laughed out loud, more like howled in laughter, because I had done almost exactly that (but fortunately didn't have to clean the junk out of my helicopter); I guarantee everyone in that theater avoided us when we left. This was 14 years after my last tour.
Living with a vet of Nam there is a shielding: the vet will do his best to ensure his children are not subjected to the same treatment. All my vet friends did as I did for my two sons. Until the war was long past and mostly forgotten, I became a vet only to those who knew me from Nam, and others I knew were also vets. While my service was known to my household, it was not known to most others unless necessary.
Military towns are generally different from the average town, also. Living in San Diego or Oceanside or the other numerous military base towns is not the same as living in Denver or Seattle or Two Dot Montana or Fargo ND, at least at that time. Military people will protect their own, and certainly did at that time, more than presently, perhaps.
For years I had to live with Nam, an incredibly hot temper, anger for no reason, etc. VA hospitals and their counseling were a joke. Went off the edge once in a bar when some nitwits insulted me, nailed the works of them, and had to quit any drink at all. More of my vet friends don't drink than do because of that type of thing.