As of today, men around the world are taking vows of celibacy which restrict them from all sexual activity for 41 days. I have, along with over half the male friends I know, decided to take the vows myself.

I thought some male members here at UM would be interested in doing it themselves. I've heard it is an enlightening experience.

If you're interested, stop all sexual activity from this day forth untill the 21st of November, and be sure to post in this thread so as to achieve glory for your bravery.

41 days...

Despite the occassional off-color joke, I'm a practicing asexual, you can go a loooooot longer than 41 days. But beware, I have friends who have tried it and it was not easy. Take Care...

Thanks for the advice my asexual friend. The reason I have chosen to do this is the self-discipline and preservation it provokes. Who will take part in it with me?

...Why?

I could see how people would laugh at this, but i agree that it could be enlighting.

I personally think sex can be healthy, but some people have different views of "healthy"
Sorry i cant join u, but best of luck.

It is indeed a funny concept. I laugh at it myself. When asked why, I can think of nothing other than 'why not?'

I don't think I've ever gone so long; I think it would be interesting.

Well, I once went a week without eating, just to see if I could do it, so I can't see this as being any crazier.

Not that I'm going to do it, but hey, good luck with that.

What religious group is this for if any?

I just got done watching 40 Days and 40 Nights with Josh Hartnett. I couldn't do it.

"To deny our impulses is to deny the very thing that makes us human." Matrix quote I think.

This group follows no religion. I also feel that I will fail miserably, but this feeling alone is enough to make me try. To tell the truth, when I made the pledge I wasn't thinking straight. But I can't go back now.

I would not survive 41 days without it.

Unfortunately I suffer from Degenerative Disk Desease (back problems) and with the amount of meds I am on, sexual function is nearly impossible (good thing I have a patient partner) ... so I guess I have been celibate on and off since 2003 (constantly since early 2005) - believe me, it is frustrating and mentally difficult.

I respect anyone that attempts this without medical problems ... especially if you are in a relationship ... it is not quite the same if you are "away" from your partner (distance) and both choose to be faithful - or if you are just on a *dry streak*.

Lol ...

Sean

41 days!? That's forever!
No freaking way. And why!? Is there a specific reason?
Is there a code for what is classified as sexual activity?

What if I agreed to 41 minutes?

Would I be enlightened then?

41 days? No problem.

yeah, suuuuuure.


I can try though.


hehehe


MC

It would be fun to try for awhile. I think...
It would be utterly impossible though, especially since i just two days ago i started seeing a little minx. She'll throw a wrench into those plans.

Just because you go without does not mean you cannot do something to make your partner happy. Of course that kind of control cannot be expected from wussies.

lol he said minx.

dude, quit lying.

I bet you don't even know what a minx is!

*goes off to wikipedia*

I bet I do.


Take that.

I take offense to that. I don't need to lie on a public forum to win acceptance in a few random topics.
It's just a way to describe a cute small wicked lass, that's all.

Sure, be all PC about it BS.

Ya know why I don't climb Mt. Everest?............beacuse I can't....now that may come-off as a "defeatists" attitude, but I'm just using that as a metaphor to the idea of "going without" for 41 days..besides...I went without sex for 15 years ALREADY!!!!!

From the first post, it sounds like he means everything.

Good luck with that.

Even just kissing?

I hope women are allowed to um speak as well. 41 days is like forever. I mean does this mean no kissing which could be classified as sexual activity- this is good to do if you were fasting. But for a man who is not he would go crazy. I feel like if you can more props to you. And congrats if you go the whole 41 days.

Good luck.

Okay, I'm poor. I barely have enough money to survive with. So, what medication do I take when things get to the point of exteme pain downstairs? Besides that having no girlfriend for 13 and a half years is not necessarily abstinance. This doesn't mean I stop watching pornography every three days. Since I am blessed with the gift of trying not to think about sex for more than that, what I fight off is depression.

I'm not saying it's hopeless. But, I don't see the point.. maybe I wasted my time saying this. But, there is a chance. So, is this an alternative to this way of thinking towards a vow, when, you have no male or female friends period? I woul'd have to say yes.

I didn't think that would be classified as sexual, how the hell do you kiss?




That ain't right? See a doctor.

I shall pass. I might explode.

I'm on 22 day right now and 13 more to go till day 35. The reason , my girlfriend is out of the country working and I tell on day 35 game over. 13 more days

I could see this plausable being single, but what does your partner think about going 41 days with out?? For those doing this experiment and have partners?

Well, it's been like three hours or something, i'm already going crazy.


No minx's lyin around unfortunatly.

I didn't say anything was wrong. I was saying I don't go "on without it" for three or so days.

This thread is disturbing.

I agree, even if you were to pull it off, what satisfies you to know what difference there is in one persons suffering when everyone has a different experience in the issue. I'm quite sure everyone does. Some people may think it's englightening, but what are you to get but absolute "silence" out of those that suffer?

It's about someones personal feelings they can't describe in words for the most part. If you want a word out of someones suffering in the process? Try understanding from someone who doesn't think they will get married or has no significant other. I'll freely admit I choose not to suffer. But to give you a word of what happens when or if I do for - what 41 days? I woul'd take brass knuckles to the moniter after a week.

Besides that, considering what part of masturbation sex is not sexual is mainly something you may never discuss with anyone to some extent. If I was to tell you the thougts in my head (if I don't want to think of anyone during masturbation sex) I don't have to tell you that I did do it or how I did it.

All there is for me to tell is what it feels like to go through the pain of being without it.

I agree very scary.....
Even with Mr Hand?! OooooooooNoooooooooo
It would be against my religion to give up sex for 41 days.

TheHaunted:

I have no idea what you just said.

Look, I'm a girl and I couldn't go that long, nor would I want to. Especially if it includes abstaining from 'self-love'. NO WAY, NO HOW.

Well, the simpler version of what I said, is what you said is abstaining from 'self love'. Even if it means you don't think a sexual thought about anyone at the time, that may be self love. So there is the understanding between suffering and "enlightenment" since masturbation is considered "suffering" to some people.

My point being, and my opinion, I wouldn't be enlightened.

I concur on both points. I read TheHaunted's thing twice, and it just wouldn't sink in. And the other point...well enough said.
I have never known a man who would, or could go even a couple of days without sex, so whoever really achieves this should get a 6 foot high trophy...even though I really don't think it would be healthy for them to go 40 days, anyway...

No, I'm saying if you have a pain, it's not normal.

But anyway, in males, if you stop everything your testostrerone levels can increase, which increases strength and your overall physical condition, (at least I've been told that's the cause), but whatever the reason is, it can work.

Actually, celibacy is very healthy. No offense, but I really don't think most of you guys will make it. I've made a life's study of sex, as an interested observer only and I honestly believe that desire is the most powerful urge known to humans, especially in men. Men will do almost anything, risk anything, including their families for sexual excitement. I know women like sex also, but I honestly don't think most would go to the lengths men will.
Also, "self-love" is a hot topic among asexuals, mainly are you if you do? Scientifically speaking, 99% of people masturbate, the remaining 1% lie. I know, it's an old, old joke.
For you guys that try it, expect extreme lower back pain, to be more aggressive and iritable than usual, and beware of the dreaded condition known as blue b-lls.
You know, this would make a good documentary, showing how men react when depriving themselves of sex. I predict most people would look like this after forty one days without any. Take Care.

Using up an entire post to convey a smiley just doesn't do it for me.

Reactions to this issue interest me. Some simply say, in all seriousness that it would be impossible for them to do it. Others say it's wrong - some even seem offended, and TheHaunted - I don't know what you're on about. Very few people have agreed to try - MentalCase - I admire your courage.

I do not seek enlightenment as such. I simply wish to see if, when deprived of my sex life, I find more enjoyment in, and grow to further appreciate, other areas of life.

.....quoting Bill Clinton...

Let me make something really clear, simple and blunt. I'll make it really, really easy for LadyWarriorRavynwynn, Coldethyl, and RaptorX7, Since I don't think any of you understand a single thing Ive said.

Ladies, excuse me, I'm a guy, and you were both right you just repeated what I did. LWR, yeah I got a trophy coming to me, and Coldethyl yeah I am that kind of guy and I can't go that long. And Raptor if I don't masterbate, they have this thing where it hurts in the testes if you don't do it after three or four days. Simply put there is no problem - it just happens. I get horny. That is just being horny, and that is normal. End of story.

As long as you're sure.

Sometimes the most precise statements take the fewest words.

True and normal.

I don't think it takes particular 'courage' to be celibate. If you want to do it fine, if not fine too. As long as you're a consenting adult participating with another consenting adult (or two) then it's really a non-issue.