Hello all,

It is my first post

I want your thoughts on this:
Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?


(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)


Thanks.

That is not much to go on.

In general though, many believe it is the responsibility of the strong to care for the weak and helpless, as they would wish to be cared for if they themselves were weak and helpless.

It does not mean that the strong are the moral slaves of the weak however, and no one should think their is virtue in accepting continous abuse and not trying to end it.

No, because they are/were your parents who decided to have you. And in that, you shouldn't be expected to take care of them.

But out of respect for you parents you should, because they raised you when you were born.

without knowing the details of your situation, it is hard to say.

however, do you not feel an obliagation to those who brought you into this world?

for ages that is how it worked... the parents cared for the weak and vulnerable children, then the children cared for the weak and vulnerable parents... the western cultures have mostly stopped doing this though... just remember, some day you may need help from YOUR children.

BTW, Nice meeting you

You should do what you feel is right

*moved to correct forum*

'Support' no, 'help' yes...there's an important distinction there. I think children should make an effort to help their parents in whatever way they can, and make sure they keep their parents a part of their lives, but I don't think they should gives up their own lives to do it. You own parents went out and had lives of their own after all...the fact that you were born is proof of that.

Some people move into with their parents in later life and spend years and years looking after them. It really stops them having a life of their own and, as much as I think it's very sweet and comendable, I think most parents would hate to think they're a burden to their children.

No.

Personally I think that parents had the choice to have babies, but us, sons and daughters, had *no choice to have parents*. We have them because we have.

When people have children they *shoud* have clear they have to *supports all those humans beings without waiting their own support*
Its parents responsability, but not kids responsability.

Kids are in this planet to make their own life. And sometimes parents cant understand this, and sometimes they need the help of their kids, for sure, but that may ruin (perhaps) the life of their kids.

But naturally we feel the love for our parents so we help them, we support then and.. unfortunately in many cases, our life is ruined somewhow just because we have to foget about our own life to help and support our parents.

Sometimes I say "people decided to have kids, they have to take care of those humans being for the rest of their life"

Thats why having kids is not a game, is not a sweet beautiful and easy thing.

This attitude that family is a burden and interfears with "life" is why some types of cultures are going extinct, as they should.

The purpose of life is to love and be loved, not to buy and be bought.

ya know......

Be nice to your children, they'll be picking your nursing home some day........


(thats for you Orcrist, cuz you have such a lovely outlook on life)

Well said...Todays western culture is rather singular and all me me me.

I think opinion on this will probably depend on various things like stage of life, quality of relationship and age.

I can perfectly imagine the teenagers saying "Do I hell owe my parents anything" lol

I would gladly take care of my mother forever. She is my mother and could never be a burden to me. I find it disgusting to think otherwise.

I'd take care of my parents.

Karma always comes back

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