do yall believe that loved ones who have passed can and will visit you in your dreams when the time is right for them or you?
i was engaged and my fience killed herself after argument it was a few years later before i started dating agin.i finally found a girl i liked and we were getting close but i was nervouse to get close to someone again ,one morning i heard my x's voice saying wake up wake up,i opend my eyes and i could see her it felt so real and all she said was ,,,its ok,it wasnt your fault,shannon its ok.and i woke up all the way i mean i jumped up and i could swear for a slight second i could smell her perfume..it felt so real i cried but i did feel at ease about dating someone again..so i dont know if that was just me trying to make myself feel bettter in my dream or could it have been somthing else.
i talked to my mom about it, (shes told a couple stories about hearing from my dad after he died in her dreams).but she told me somthing i didnt expect.she said every year at the time of my x's birthday march 15..she visits step dad in a dream,,she says tells him he needs to get somethings togther ,things that were dear to her when she was alive,,and its randome things like a copy of a song,a ceramic eagle and a few othere randome things she collected...she wants my step dad to get this stuff together and give to the son she left behind when he gets older to help him remember her. mom says he wakes up freaked out and wishes he wouldnt have thses dreams hes affraid hes crazy and he wont talk about it,,not with anyone but my mom....
so have any of you ever have anyhting like this? where sometimes a dream seems like so much more. as far as my dream about her i never fully believed it was more then my guilt,,but it seemed so real it was touching..
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QUOTE(asc.rudeboy @ Jan 4 2007, 09:26 AM) [snapback]1486396[/snapback]
do yall believe that loved ones who have passed can and will visit you in your dreams when the time is right for them or you?
i was engaged and my fience killed herself after argument it was a few years later before i started dating agin.i finally found a girl i liked and we were getting close but i was nervouse to get close to someone again ,one morning i heard my x's voice saying wake up wake up,i opend my eyes and i could see her it felt so real and all she said was ,,,its ok,it wasnt your fault,shannon its ok.and i woke up all the way i mean i jumped up and i could swear for a slight second i could smell her perfume..it felt so real i cried but i did feel at ease about dating someone again..so i dont know if that was just me trying to make myself feel bettter in my dream or could it have been somthing else.
i talked to my mom about it, (shes told a couple stories about hearing from my dad after he died in her dreams).but she told me somthing i didnt expect.she said every year at the time of my x's birthday march 15..she visits step dad in a dream,,she says tells him he needs to get somethings togther ,things that were dear to her when she was alive,,and its randome things like a copy of a song,a ceramic eagle and a few othere randome things she collected...she wants my step dad to get this stuff together and give to the son she left behind when he gets older to help him remember her. mom says he wakes up freaked out and wishes he wouldnt have thses dreams hes affraid hes crazy and he wont talk about it,,not with anyone but my mom....
so have any of you ever have anyhting like this? where sometimes a dream seems like so much more. as far as my dream about her i never fully believed it was more then my guilt,,but it seemed so real it was touching..
i was engaged and my fience killed herself after argument it was a few years later before i started dating agin.i finally found a girl i liked and we were getting close but i was nervouse to get close to someone again ,one morning i heard my x's voice saying wake up wake up,i opend my eyes and i could see her it felt so real and all she said was ,,,its ok,it wasnt your fault,shannon its ok.and i woke up all the way i mean i jumped up and i could swear for a slight second i could smell her perfume..it felt so real i cried but i did feel at ease about dating someone again..so i dont know if that was just me trying to make myself feel bettter in my dream or could it have been somthing else.
i talked to my mom about it, (shes told a couple stories about hearing from my dad after he died in her dreams).but she told me somthing i didnt expect.she said every year at the time of my x's birthday march 15..she visits step dad in a dream,,she says tells him he needs to get somethings togther ,things that were dear to her when she was alive,,and its randome things like a copy of a song,a ceramic eagle and a few othere randome things she collected...she wants my step dad to get this stuff together and give to the son she left behind when he gets older to help him remember her. mom says he wakes up freaked out and wishes he wouldnt have thses dreams hes affraid hes crazy and he wont talk about it,,not with anyone but my mom....
so have any of you ever have anyhting like this? where sometimes a dream seems like so much more. as far as my dream about her i never fully believed it was more then my guilt,,but it seemed so real it was touching..
I'm so sorry about your fiance. Tragic. But I am glad that you are at peace again.
I wasn't sure about the bit about your mom. Can you clarify who did what? Your mom wants your dad to get his stuff together? At the end of that paragraph you said "hes affraid hes crazy and he wont talk about it,,not with anyone but my mom...."
I dont understand who is afraid he is crazy?
Thanks.
Really interesting stuff. I don't understand that bit at the end either. It's a bit confusing and unclear.
I think if there was 'communication' with the other side that this would be the most likely way for anyone to be able to experience it.
I think if there was 'communication' with the other side that this would be the most likely way for anyone to be able to experience it.
sorry hah trying to typ and play with my daughter at the same time.
i went to talk to my mom about it ,about my x coming to me in my dream,,because she had told me stories about my dad coming to visit her after he died..she was the only person i knew that ever said anyhting like this to me.
when i told her about the dream,,she told me something unexpected,,,the same girl that came to me in my dream came to my step dad in his and has came to him more then once,,shes comes to him on her birthday,,and tells him not to foget,and to gather certain objects together and put them in a box for her son,when he gets older,that way he will have things to remind him of his mom..and they are all things she really loved...i knew what they were but it didnt make sence to my parents..like she wanted milessa ethridge come to my window,,she always sang that song around the house,,she wanted ceramic ealges and a few other things that she collected...my step dad wont talk about it to anyone but my mom because it freaks him out..he dosnt want anyone to think hes crazy.
i went to talk to my mom about it ,about my x coming to me in my dream,,because she had told me stories about my dad coming to visit her after he died..she was the only person i knew that ever said anyhting like this to me.
when i told her about the dream,,she told me something unexpected,,,the same girl that came to me in my dream came to my step dad in his and has came to him more then once,,shes comes to him on her birthday,,and tells him not to foget,and to gather certain objects together and put them in a box for her son,when he gets older,that way he will have things to remind him of his mom..and they are all things she really loved...i knew what they were but it didnt make sence to my parents..like she wanted milessa ethridge come to my window,,she always sang that song around the house,,she wanted ceramic ealges and a few other things that she collected...my step dad wont talk about it to anyone but my mom because it freaks him out..he dosnt want anyone to think hes crazy.
So your ex comes to see your step dad too?
QUOTE(asc.rudeboy @ Jan 4 2007, 10:26 AM) [snapback]1486396[/snapback]
do yall believe that loved ones who have passed can and will visit you in your dreams when the time is right for them or you?
Yes, I do. It's not something I'm inclined to believe by nature, but lately the evidence is just overwhelming to me.
I'll give you my subjective impression of what is happening. Keep what fits, and throw out what doesn't.
Your ex made a serious mistake by committing suicide. I don't mean it's a sin and all that stuff about Hell and so on. I mean it was a waste of a precious resource in which much investment was made, like trashing a project that is only half-finished, and you just have to clean up the mess and start over. It's a real setback. The damage from this act-- the waste and stagnation and detouring-- spreads out in ripples to others in her life, like you and her son. Your ex is trying to heal some of the damage she caused by her suicide. She is trying to set things right. This means getting you un-stuck from feeling guilty and responsible for her suicide and gun-shy about the next relationship. That's why she appeared to you and gave you that message.
For her son, healing means something else. I don't know what, in particular, but knowing is not important. What's important is to do as she says. Take those objects and get them to her son. I imagine that she is trying to (and I am groping for the right terms here) send healing energy to her son, and that physical objects associated with her in life will help him be attuned and receptive to this energy. I have heard of this before in several places and have it on fairly good authority-- to the extent that there is any "authority" on stuff like this!
What you, your mother, your step-father, and your ex's son are doing by acting together in this way is crucially important: you are enabling your ex to make amends for the harm she caused. Everyone involved can be made whole and can even grow immensely by these acts. A fatal mistake can be redeemed. I don't mean to be too dramatic, but what's achievable here is nothing less than triumph over the very darkest circumstances.
Again, these are the impressions that come through to me. I think it's the kind of feedback you're asking for, and I hope you find it useful.
PS: And by the way, ain't none of y'all crazy. People get messages from the departed. I know it's fashionable among some people to scoff at the fact, but there it is. I think it's high time we all stop getting worked up about the finger and start looking where it's pointing, if you know what I mean. Life is weird-- let's get used to it.
QUOTE(coldethyl @ Jan 4 2007, 12:32 PM) [snapback]1486483[/snapback]
So your ex comes to see your step dad too?
yea she only came to me the one time she comes to my step dad every year around her birthday,,trying to get him to put the care package together.this has been going on about 7yrs..every year mom will pull me aside and tell me the story of the visit and the mesage,,and mom always says i wish she would come see me,,they were close friends.
QUOTE(boorite @ Jan 4 2007, 01:41 PM) [snapback]1486637[/snapback]
Yes, I do. It's not something I'm inclined to believe by nature, but lately the evidence is just overwhelming to me.
I'll give you my subjective impression of what is happening. Keep what fits, and throw out what doesn't.
Your ex made a serious mistake by committing suicide. I don't mean it's a sin and all that stuff about Hell and so on. I mean it was a waste of a precious resource in which much investment was made, like trashing a project that is only half-finished, and you just have to clean up the mess and start over. It's a real setback. The damage from this act-- the waste and stagnation and detouring-- spreads out in ripples to others in her life, like you and her son. Your ex is trying to heal some of the damage she caused by her suicide. She is trying to set things right. This means getting you un-stuck from feeling guilty and responsible for her suicide and gun-shy about the next relationship. That's why she appeared to you and gave you that message.
For her son, healing means something else. I don't know what, in particular, but knowing is not important. What's important is to do as she says. Take those objects and get them to her son. I imagine that she is trying to (and I am groping for the right terms here) send healing energy to her son, and that physical objects associated with her in life will help him be attuned and receptive to this energy. I have heard of this before in several places and have it on fairly good authority-- to the extent that there is any "authority" on stuff like this!
What you, your mother, your step-father, and your ex's son are doing by acting together in this way is crucially important: you are enabling your ex to make amends for the harm she caused. Everyone involved can be made whole and can even grow immensely by these acts. A fatal mistake can be redeemed. I don't mean to be too dramatic, but what's achievable here is nothing less than triumph over the very darkest circumstances.
Again, these are the impressions that come through to me. I think it's the kind of feedback you're asking for, and I hope you find it useful.
PS: And by the way, ain't none of y'all crazy. People get messages from the departed. I know it's fashionable among some people to scoff at the fact, but there it is. I think it's high time we all stop getting worked up about the finger and start looking where it's pointing, if you know what I mean. Life is weird-- let's get used to it.
I'll give you my subjective impression of what is happening. Keep what fits, and throw out what doesn't.
Your ex made a serious mistake by committing suicide. I don't mean it's a sin and all that stuff about Hell and so on. I mean it was a waste of a precious resource in which much investment was made, like trashing a project that is only half-finished, and you just have to clean up the mess and start over. It's a real setback. The damage from this act-- the waste and stagnation and detouring-- spreads out in ripples to others in her life, like you and her son. Your ex is trying to heal some of the damage she caused by her suicide. She is trying to set things right. This means getting you un-stuck from feeling guilty and responsible for her suicide and gun-shy about the next relationship. That's why she appeared to you and gave you that message.
For her son, healing means something else. I don't know what, in particular, but knowing is not important. What's important is to do as she says. Take those objects and get them to her son. I imagine that she is trying to (and I am groping for the right terms here) send healing energy to her son, and that physical objects associated with her in life will help him be attuned and receptive to this energy. I have heard of this before in several places and have it on fairly good authority-- to the extent that there is any "authority" on stuff like this!
What you, your mother, your step-father, and your ex's son are doing by acting together in this way is crucially important: you are enabling your ex to make amends for the harm she caused. Everyone involved can be made whole and can even grow immensely by these acts. A fatal mistake can be redeemed. I don't mean to be too dramatic, but what's achievable here is nothing less than triumph over the very darkest circumstances.
Again, these are the impressions that come through to me. I think it's the kind of feedback you're asking for, and I hope you find it useful.
PS: And by the way, ain't none of y'all crazy. People get messages from the departed. I know it's fashionable among some people to scoff at the fact, but there it is. I think it's high time we all stop getting worked up about the finger and start looking where it's pointing, if you know what I mean. Life is weird-- let's get used to it.
i agree with you om more then one level,after my dream i found a ton of pressure raised off of my shoulders..and found it easier to move on,,but i have alwasy made a point to remember her and little things about her,,i only get to see her son once a year when he comes to visit my parents,,(he wasnt my blood so i have no rights to him) but when he asks i tell him about his mom and i still have a few keep sakes i saved for him,and ill give him something of his moms....i havent put the care box toghter because for whatever reason she come to my step dad and wants him to do it,,so maybe thats something he needs to work out.
QUOTE(asc.rudeboy @ Jan 4 2007, 12:58 PM) [snapback]1486659[/snapback]
i agree with you om more then one level,after my dream i found a ton of pressure raised off of my shoulders..and found it easier to move on,,but i have alwasy made a point to remember her and little things about her,,i only get to see her son once a year when he comes to visit my parents,,(he wasnt my blood so i have no rights to him) but when he asks i tell him about his mom and i still have a few keep sakes i saved for him,and ill give him something of his moms....i havent put the care box toghter because for whatever reason she come to my step dad and wants him to do it,,so maybe thats something he needs to work out.
Yep, it sure seems that way.
It sounds like this is all going in the right direction, and the past is being put to good account. I can't tell you how inspiring that is to me.
My mother passed away when i was twelve years old, and my grandma claims that she visits her in dreams. I have never experienced anything like this myself but she tells me about it all the time.
QUOTE(coldethyl @ Jan 4 2007, 12:57 PM) [snapback]1486441[/snapback]
Really interesting stuff. I don't understand that bit at the end either. It's a bit confusing and unclear.
I think if there was 'communication' with the other side that this would be the most likely way for anyone to be able to experience it.
I think if there was 'communication' with the other side that this would be the most likely way for anyone to be able to experience it.
I agree with this. I can't say I've ever experienced anything like this and I don't really understand it,
but if our dearly departed were to contact us, that's probably how it would happen.
QUOTE(boorite @ Jan 4 2007, 08:25 PM) [snapback]1486690[/snapback]
Yep, it sure seems that way.
It sounds like this is all going in the right direction, and the past is being put to good account. I can't tell you how inspiring that is to me.
It sounds like this is all going in the right direction, and the past is being put to good account. I can't tell you how inspiring that is to me.
I agree
thanks for sharing!
Wow that part about the smelling her perfume was a bit unnerving, think that our minds do try to work out these sublimated emotions in our dreams,but i am curious as to what items where suggested by this visitor to keep as tokens or keepsakes?........B
I love the night
the day is okay
the sun can be fun
but i live to see those rays slip away...........Blue Oyster Cult
I love the night
the day is okay
the sun can be fun
but i live to see those rays slip away...........Blue Oyster Cult
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