Theres this girl i work with that i like and im not sure if she likes me back. well, sometimes as she walks past me, she'll brush up against me or walk by really close to me. Another thing is when she talks to me, she smiles while she does most of the time. and she sometimes jokes around with me. and sometimes ill catch her staring at me but i dont know if its cuz she likes me or whatever. anyway, can you help me? No rude comments plz. Thanks.

Quickest way to find out is to just ask her out. She'll tell you in a hurry whether or not she likes you.

All we can do is offer opinions based on what little information you've given us. You're still the best judge of your own decisions.

AC's right....Just ask her out and see what she has to say.....I know it's scary, But until you ask your never going to know.....Good luck sweetie...

Ask her out. It sounds like she's waiting for you to ask her.

Take her to a decent place, but not too ritzi. Ask her where she would like to go, but be prepared to deal with "whatever you like" or "it doesn't matter", so, unless she comes up with something specifically (10-1 she won't), have somewhere already in mind so it sounds (and appears) like you know what you are doing. Make sure to shower, shave (at least trim the facial hair up-unless you're in New Jersey-in that case, she'll be expecting the cro-magnon, 'cave-man' look-anything else will frighten and confuse her), brush the teeth and put on cologne. Wear something decent (better than 'football Sunday hangin' with the guys' clothes-something with a collar perhaps), and when you see her, smile alot and make sure you tell her she looks great (be sincere- without sounding corney, stupid or desperate). And when you're out; Talk about her. Show interest. Ask her questions about her, but don't make it sound like you're interrogating. Give her the impression that she's the only woman in the room ('cause she really should be if you're out with her). Don't talk about you too much-be sort of a mystery without being creepy.

Above all else: Don't talk about ex-girlfriends or your mother. Never, never, ever, ever, ever...Clear 'nuff?

After that, you're on your own...Good luck!

(be a gentleman..)

Hey...
I wouldn't actually ask her out straight away. If it was me, I'd get pretty scared. Instead. I think that you should ask to spend a break or lunch hour together or something, nice and casual. If it goes well, do the "Ive had a great time, do you think that we can do this again some time?" Depending on the reaction, do it again or not. But at the end of the second time, tell her that you like her. Then, leave it to her to reciprocate or not.

good luck! Fingers crossed to you!

The worst that could happen is that she could say no.

Good thing we don't leave it to chicks.

It is scary. Your palms are sweaty, your heart is thumpin', your throat is tight and you are expected to stroll up to a woman- While lookin' and actin' cool (without coming across like a carsalesman), and ask a perfect stranger (that you find attractive, no less) out on a date-and after all of this, she might say no...

It's not fun. Even if you've done it once or twice. Especially when the girl is rude or mean about her 'no!'.

It's just part of being a guy...

Sounds like she's doing all the chasing so far, If you want to let her know you're interested then you have to show it! start engaging with her first, take it from there

When you next have plans to go somewhere with your friends, ask her to come along casually. If that goes well, the next time you see her ask if she wants to go out somewhere just the 2 of you. By then you should know for sure if she likes you or not.

...half the time you do. Or, just sit there, waiting for us to make the first move.
But anyway...just...talk to her. Find out if she is already seeing someone, perhaps?
Generally asking someone about their love life is a (not so subtle) way of letting someone know...

Shadow..

She's obviously flirting dude...ask her out to a movie (the latest one-but take her to one she wants to see. Unfortunately, she probably won't tell you which one that is if you ask her directly, so do some research beforehand.)...If the movie goes well, make a suggestion to have some pizza. Try to find a nice pizzaria (again;ahead of time) that's quiet. Use the opportunity to talk..even if is about stuff you could not care less about if someone held a gun to your head. Smile.


I agree. It's because women don't really flirt anymore. Alot of guys need a nudge. That nudge is flirtation.

Flirtation is an art that American women have lost I'm sorry to say...Shadow09's 'chick-in-question' is fluttering her eyelids and she's probably going to get a date.

It really works.

Like RX7 and some others said. Just ask her causally to come with you somewhere. Then at the end, ask her. If she likes you, she won't turn you down. This is how my girlfriend and I started going out.

Just remember, IF she says no, she would not of been the right one for you anyways.

I'm sorry, did you just contradict yourself?

We do so flirt! Anyone who says differently ... maybe hasn't been flirted to in a while. Besides, flirtation is a french thing, not an american one. They can do it best. But if not, just eavesdrop in any conversation of under 25's in mixed company. There should be more flirtation there than you (not personally you) can handle.



Not necessarily - she could just be playing hard to get. Just keep smiling and talking to her anyway, then ask why not..after a while.
And DONT SULK!

good luck

Well from what you have described, it definitely sounds like this girl fancies you. So there's only one way to find out and if she doesn't, life goes on.

Hope all works out for you ..

Ask that girly out! Three tips:

1: Look her in the eye, don't look away alot or let your eyes dart around.

2: Don't fidget, scratch, rub, wiggle, squirm, etc.

3: No giggling


You will ooze with confidence.

About tip number 1...Id take that with a grain of salt.
Eye contact about 80 percent is good, the same for a job interview.
Any less you won't seem serious, and more and you'll seem too intense.

Go with what your gut says and grow some..ummm....peanuts.

i'd say to ask her out

Ask her to marry you.

Or wander around in really tight trousers with a salami shoved down them, with a rose between your teeth. Remember to wink suggestively at her constantly, never taking your eyes from her chest.

When you go out with her, take her to Lover's Point overlooking the city, and make suggestive comments for half an hour.

Above all, lie through your teeth about everything. People will say be yourself, but I say ludricrous tall tales are the order of the day.

If you ever meet her folks, have a crack at her mum. And drink her dad's best Scotch, whilst sitting in his chair.

Then get her pregnant and leave her.



Sound advice all round. Anyone else got any problems they want solving? I'm all ears

Very funny! bad advice but funny!

Funniest thing I have read all week...
That being said, it's funny because its not happened to me.
If it did, I'd invest in a very large knife

Ok well here is a question for everyone...
How do I let I guy know that I'm not interested at all, and to stop bugging me?

Hmmm there are many possible courses of action for this.


1. Kill him
2. Burn your face off with acid so he won't be interested
3. Lead him on relentlessley then break his heart
4. Move to another country
5. Make a point of sleeping with every single one of his friends but not him
6. Reverse psychology...just come on to him constantly until he gets scared
7. Turn gay
8. Tell him you're a Christian and he has to marry you before you consider even holding hands

There are many more but I am bored now

Hope these helped lol

Just tell him you're not interested. LIe though. Don't tell him it's because he's grody. Just tell him it's because you're scarred emotionally from the time you spent in prison.

Might work.

She's bisexual or lesbian.
Accept it.

A sneaky method I use to see of a girl is checking me out is when I notice her looking at me, I'll look at my watch or do something casual, count to 3 and look up at her.

Usually if the girl is also looking at her watch, or doing what you were doing, she's interested.

Good luck you dude.

I like the cut of secondhand's gib.

And on topic...since when did a woman's feelings or opinions matter, anyway? Just club her over the head and drag her by the hair back to your cave and be done with it.

A wiser man than myself once told me that you have to get told no, before you get told yes.

Well that's not necessarily true at all. In fact, many times what starts as yes ends in "No" and a whole lot of tears and court proceedings.

Yawn. (no, I'm not saying your post was boring. I mean, actually *Yawn*. it's contageous and if she's watching you then you get to see how wide she... I mean usually they'll repeat it like you're saying...)

I never said it APPLIED to everyone Sir Drippster.

Oh. Wait. What?

When I was single I worked with this one guy I wanted to get to know better...outside of work. I got a small group of friends/co-workers together to go have lunch & see a movie. It made us both more comfortable to have others around. When you are out in a small group, you can see if there is any attraction. Also if she says she can't go...what are the reasons she gives? Boyfriend perhaps?

I'm a really big flirt, eventhough I am married. It just something I do. I like being near people...especially of the opposite sex, cause I relate to them better. Yet I also let them know right up front that I'm married & just in fun. Maybe she too is just a flirt...perhaps without even realizing it. I flirt sometimes & have to remind myself that not everyone sees it as harmless fun. That there is nothing to it!

Ask questions...not interrogation like, but get to know her some. You guys do have something in common! YOUR PLACE OF WORK!!! Does she take breaks at a regular time? Just happen to take yours at the same time now & then. Be light, be funny, yet considerate. Remember you want to get to know her & see if there is any chemistry between you. Who knows, maybe you'll find a girlfriend or just a good friend. Both are nice to have.

As for the guy I was interested in...no dice. He was overly possessive. But I met my hubby soon after that!

wait a sec...where are the lesbians? not...that..i... *ahem* nevermind.

Shadow, go out with friends, ask her to come along, blah blah blah..and *whispers* make her smile...

Who is initiating the conversation?
You or her?

Ask her out. Get it over with. Then you'll know for sure. No more dithering!!

Ahem, care to enlighten us a little more?
Seems I'm not the only person who doesnt really understand this comment

I also like the cut of secondhand's jib, and I love this phrase too Ol'Drippy, not to mention the rest of this post! LOL!!!