QUOTE(msadventures @ Mar 3 2007, 09:52 AM) [snapback]1566248[/snapback]
BlueMoods, I had a few questions that we didn't cover in our previous communiques.
- What exactly are the physical symptoms of your need, assuming you don't satisfy your thirst.
- Are all your donors female?
(Just wondering if it's womething in the blood chemistry of women that you crave)
- If it came down to your being treated in a medically sterile scenario, drinking or transfusing from an IV bag of some nameless donor's (tested) blood, would that still satisfy the thirst?
First, understand that the need varies with each of us and, I am what is considered a high need sanguinarian. Partly age, need does increase with age a bit, and partly for reasons I don't understand. Some simply feel it more and we are more prone to vamping and invariably get twoofy (feeling the first stages of vamping) before our next feed. Some only need to feed monthly, for the high need sangs, it's weekly as it is for me though currently I am without a donor. Have been for 5 weeks now. My fiance` tries but, she's uncomfortable with being cut, so I am pushing my limits.
Within 3-4 days of feeding I get a headache that nothing will relieve, prescription migraine meds help a bit, but it's never gone entirely until I can feed. By two weeks out everything aches, major fatigue constantly, insomnia, nightmares if I do manage to doze off and for same stupid reason libido goes through the roof - frustrating and annoying for my partner to say the least (ok laugh but it isn't funny when it's you) A month without and I can't focus enough to meditate, even balancing the bank is a real effort, staying on track with a post at this point involves a lot of re reading, editing, removing unnecessary rambling and random BS that isn't needed. I am using my projection TV for a monitor and a wireless keyboard and mouse, too achy and restless to sit at my desk for long. Moody, irritable and trying not to take it out on anyone around me and, yeah the headache. I do use certain foods and drinks to temporarily quell the taste, does nothing save distract me for a bit, and give me a buzz from the blood wine but, dead blood can't stop the need, something like a smoker trying to quit and chewing gum - it isn't what you crave but, it distracts you for a bit. Only instead of the need diminishing over time, it gets more intense.
As much as I fight it, and know NEVER let the "beast" win, I also know if I don't feed for long enough I will vamp out - it's happened before. When a sanguinarian vamps, we aren't rational, basically don't remember a lot of it and end up doing things we would not normally do. The physical discomfort drives us to do almost anything to find relief and meds simply don't work, well unless we want to be zombies on sedatives which is one, just as bad as vamping and two, nearly impossible to get a doctor to prescribe. PM me if you must know the details of the last time I was without a donor for six or seven months and I did lose it - and paid the price for that.
No my donors are not all female, in fact my last one, that made a serious mistake while on vacation, was a man. Just a matter of self restraint and both of us knowing those feelings are not real, just a side effect of feeding and in a hour that will be the furthest thing from our minds, so don't act on it. Same with a female donor unless sh happens to be my lover first. Going from donor to lover is a bad idea, too easy for what happens during feeding to be confused for genuine desire which, it is in that moment, but wouldn't be otherwise.
Yes, a transfusion should work, but not of stored blood, whatever it is we need is not in dead blood, if it were all I'd have to do is save the blood from butchering cattle and that would suffice - all stored blood does is satisfy the taste and mouth feel, good but, not enough. Yes I do save the bulk of the blood when I butcher a steer for meat since I know my cattle are safe - keep them tested. We use it for blood wine, black pudding and blood sausage. And yeah, I usually have a drink when I'm bleeding the steer - then it is enough to stop the need but, I won't kill for blood alone.
OK, as my fiance` points out you are probably curious as to exactly what is involved in feeding so, a walk through is in order. Not something I readily share but, maybe it will clear up a few misconceptions.
I will meet with my donor at either their home or mine, whichever they prefer. (this is after all tests are clean of course) I question his/her health and frame of mind because if the donor has even a cold or is going through a stressful time I won't feed. We usually chat a while, casual banter to let my donor relax, while we talk I clean the area I intend to cut, that varies with the donor as to what they are comfortable with. Has to be a small vein, never an artery, never the wrist or neck due to too great a chance of cutting a nerve or tendon in the wrist, and Nieves as well as major arteries in the neck. Using a new, pre sterilized blade on my scalpel I make 3 short cuts across the vein, not along the length. I use a dental dam with a small slit in it to minimize contaminating the cut with saliva, some prefer to use a cup rather than direct feed, and I will if my donor requests that I do so. The feed itself is quiet, gentle and very personal, enjoyable for the donor and myself. Afterwards, the cuts are washed, cleansed with betadine or povidone iodine, an antibiotic ointment, butterfly bandages and, a light gauze dressing applied. Once that is done, we might have a drink, go for coffee, play a few hands of poker, even have diner, whatever the donor wants to do, just my way of saying thank you. Now if my fiance` allows me a feed that is another story, the sanitary precautions are the same except I don't use the dental dam with her and what happens during that feed is not fit to post here, suffice to say all self restraint flies out the window.