I found this article that discussing the issue in an interesting way and one of the things that jumped out at me was this line:
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Narcissists are (a) extremely sensitive to personal criticism and (
extremely critical of other people. They think that they must be seen as perfect or superior or infallible, next to god-like (if not actually divine, then sitting on the right hand of God) -- or else they are worthless. There's no middle ground of ordinary normal humanity for narcissists. They can't tolerate the least disagreement. In fact, if you say, "Please don't do that again -- it hurts," narcissists will turn around and do it again harder to prove that they were right the first time; their reasoning seems to be something like "I am a good person and can do no wrong; therefore, I didn't hurt you and you are lying about it now..." -- sorry, folks, I get lost after that. Anyhow, narcissists are habitually cruel in little ways, as well as big ones, because they're paying attention to their fantasy and not to you, but the bruises on you are REAL, not in your imagination.
They will attack you (sometimes physically) and spew a load of bile, insult, abuse, contempt, threats, etc., and then -- well, it's kind of like they had indigestion and the vicious tirade worked like a burp: "There. Now I feel better. Where were we?" They feel better, so they expect you to feel better, too. They will say you are nothing, worthless, and turn around immediately and say that they love you. When you object to this kind of treatment, they will say, "You just have to accept me the way I am. (God made me this way, so God loves me even if you are too stupid to understand how special I am.)"
They will attack you (sometimes physically) and spew a load of bile, insult, abuse, contempt, threats, etc., and then -- well, it's kind of like they had indigestion and the vicious tirade worked like a burp: "There. Now I feel better. Where were we?" They feel better, so they expect you to feel better, too. They will say you are nothing, worthless, and turn around immediately and say that they love you. When you object to this kind of treatment, they will say, "You just have to accept me the way I am. (God made me this way, so God loves me even if you are too stupid to understand how special I am.)"
Now it occurred to me that the newest kind of religion is one the rejects the typical old school type religion that expects the participant to be a mere participant. THe narcissist wants to be part of a religion that lets them hang with the head honcho, sit at Gods right hand so to speak.
Take people like Madonna and Tom Cruise who joined religions that had tiers that you could buy your way through rather than act like a decent human being. Religion with ranks.
Some people just make up their own religion. "I believe in God and God knows me and we are connected so if you don't like it then tough, cause God knows what I mean."
What I'm wondering is what the point is in having an organized religion with oneself? If you are being an active critic of "religion" but hanging on to your own "version" of God and insisting that you have it all figured out and just the rest of the Christians for example are too stupid or narrow minded to figure it out.....aren't you basically holding yourself up from Criticism by not truly discussing your religion while you trash someone elses?
And why is it that it is totally acceptable for you to have your own "version" of God, but if a Chrisitan says that they have their own version of the religion even if they accept the basic tenents of the religion, you scowl at them and call them liars and hypocrites?
I find it interesting when people behave this way because it really is as if they have appointed themselves the mighty judgement of God theory and sit perched on a throne wanting to lord over people their NPD because probably in real life they have no friends left.
What say you?
eta forgot link
http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/traits.html