May 11

Calcutta, India - A father chained and locked up his 19-year-old son for three weeks for marrying against the family's wishes in eastern India.

Police rescued the son from his father's house Thursday on the outskirts of Calcutta, the capital of West Bengal state. He was kept in a room locked and chained.

The father, has been arrested and charged with illegally detaining and torturing his son for 21 days.

He opposed his son's marriage because of enmity between the two families.

Police acted after the son's wife, 18, filed a complaint against her father-in-law.

The two teenagers had grown up in the same neighborhood and fallen in love. They eloped and wed in a mosque on the outskirts of Calcutta.

In rural India, most marriages are arranged by the parents, and it is unusual for young people to choose their own partners.

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I'm glad the father was arrested and charged. I couldnt imagine marrying some I dont love (or even know in some of these cases) True love rocks!!!!! I hope they get to stay together.

man let true love be, the poor man I hope the father comes to his senses and loves his son and new daughter in law

Geez....ppl should be free to choose and love who they want.

Man... I dunno.considering some of the girlfriends my son has had, I've wanted to lock him in a closet at times..

I'm glad the father got jailed.

Good for the son to pick he's own wife.

Isn't that the truth!

True love.

Here it wouldn't last 5 years, I wonder how long they'll make it.

hate to break it to you. but true love only exist in fariy tale like cinderella and what not.

if the guy loved his father he wouldn't marry agianst his wishes no matter what. he owed him that for his life.
family first. always.

Not true. My parents and grand parents found true love, and so have I.

Um that makes no sense. You could also just say if his father loved him he would let him marry who he wants. After all family first. Like you said.

If you love someone, you have got to think of them instead of you at times. Im glad the boy got married to his true love

What a screwed-up country!

"Wow ,Just woundering what world you came from,Who scewed with your belief,But if that is how you think youll never find your true love and may God help you to find your true love,Family doesnt always come first,Why should your father tell you who you need to love?Who is he to say "Your going to marry Her or Him" Are you ready to marry someone who only makes you rich or looks good, This is what is wrong with society today,too many followers and not enough leaders,Life is what you make of it and not doing Everything someone else tells you to do because they dont like who you are with is a crock-o-sh t! Dont get me wrong Family does come first,But to say You cant be with the one you love, man that is just crule,I guess the so called father was only thinking of himself and that makes him a bad father,and as for owing his life to his father,bull crap!! the man was 19,"19" years not 19 months,not 19 seconds."19 YEARS"
but if you want to believe that true love only exist in fariy tales,thats on you and I hope one day you will see love is out there ,yes it is even for someone like you"the non believer" .I just hope that you married for love and not just to settle. God bless you.

I wish them the best of luck,"You can live without a father or mother but you cant live without love"

i bet that everytime you met a guy, spent time with him you probably thought you had found true love. then you broke up.
and now you found true love yet again.how wonderful. well, i am so gald you are still together with your 'true love'. but i cant help but wonder, how long have you been with each other?
the way i see it, love is just a feeling which disapper the moment something goes wrong. you're fine at the beggining then slowly you're not in love anymore and then you just end up feeling hurt when he leaves. you feel sad but then after a while you are in love again. it is a never ending process.
true, love exists in the world but its just a feling which can change like any other feeling can. and this whole boy meets girl and stays together forever is just not believeable to me

look at it this way, maybe the father did love his son. maybe he felt he could only protect his son by locking him up. not everyone is civil. it is not easy for every one to handle teens.he was probably too frustrated. you'll now ask protect his son from What?

okay, i'll tell you.
protect him from the marrying young. how can such a young person provide for a family. it cant be easy. there has to be a reason for the rivalry between the guy's and girl's family. the father must have felt mad at his son for betraying his trust and marrying in to a family he despises.
and if marrying the girl was okay , why did the son have to run away and then do it. hidden from everyone.
if the guy had considered asking his father a reason for his disapproval maybe he could have worked something out with his father.

now all the son has is his little wife. his family can't like him very much right now nor can the girl's family or his relatives.

if they wanted to get married so bad they should have thought up a better plan.

however, i do hope the situation works out for that family. what's happened has happened, the least they could do is forgive each other.

I think my parents might say the same about me

I notice you completely left out my Parents and Grandparents. My Grand parents married when they were 20 and stayed married till they died in their 90's. My Grandpa died first, my Grandma 6 months later because she loved him so much she could not live without him. My Parents married when Mom was 23 and Dad was 28. They are still together and still in love and Dad just turned 70.( explain that) As far as saying you bet I thought I found true love with every guy I spent time with is silly and rude. Of course I had crushes as a teenanger but the man I'm with now is the only one I loved and still love, and we have been together 5 years and still just as much in love. Maybe not everybody finds true love sure, I agree with that, but some do.

I was married at age 18 and I've been married for almost 18 years.

How much longer til I qualify for 'true love'?

Well according to "Gem" there is no such thing as true love, so in her op I guess never. Not my op though.

Meh, that's cool.

He must have been one evil SOB.

The guy that broke her heart.

i am sorry that your grand parents passed away. losing them together must have hurt really bad....
i didnt mean to sound rude earlier.i was just trying to make a point.

alright maybe true love does exist, for some and maybe not the others. which is sad cause i only seem to know the others. and futher more i am not heart broken. i just dont think that some guy could love you so self lessly that all he sees is you and nothing else,despite the fact that you and your parents and your grandparents stayed together for such a good long time . if true love is out there how come only some people find it and not the everyone?

and also you may have noticed that its only girls that are disscussing whether love exists or not. no guys.
it is basically just girls who believe in love and all that. have you ever heard a guy disscus true love?
any girl could love any man but that same man always seem to let you down .

well its just us guys are not as much emotionally in tune as girls are.... i think i said that right....



you know some thing? allot of us guys wonder why you girls always seem to go for the guys that treat you like sh@#. you know the type of guy thats always telling you how fine you are and saying what a nice @$$ you have while constantly looking at your tits. or the guy thats so obviously saying that he loves you just so he can get inside your pants. while the rest of us guys who have the dam common courtesy to look a girl in the face when talking to them and who treat them with the respect that they deserve are the ones who seem to be left out or thought of as wussies. why is that? i to have given up on the hole true love thing but if i was ever to get married i would want it to be for life. so i would be making dam sure that she was the one for me. the way i look at it when some one gets married there not lovers any more there family and you don't just fall out of love with family!

Wow, why aren't there more men like you?

this little part here is just seriously offensive. but i guess you are just letting your anger out, which is good for you .



and this part sounds like a trustworhty, sweet gentlemanish and somewhat romantic guy... who would turn in to that other guy who would be, lets say, a jerk . just so you know, i've heard all this "i'm perfectly innocent little thing" so many time that i have lost count.
even if you were telling the truth, how am i to know that you are the real deal??

and if you are then you can just disregard everything said above.

Well a guy who acts like that isn't in love.

Men can experience love just as women can. Love and lust are two different things and just because you're in love, that doesn't mean you never lust for another person again. We're all human. It's the ability to control your lust and the ability to accept each other and a myriad of other things that allows true love to develop. If you're looking for the kind of 'true love' that they show in movies or books, it's not real, but it does exist, just in a different form.

how do you know what men feel?? its just what they tell you. perhaps some of them do but i think dont a majority of them do.

Thats ok. Good question. I dont know why some dont find true love. I've seen the others to. I work with one lady who has been married 5 times and another who got married 6 months ago and is allready having affairs, and another who has been happily married for 15 years. So I guess you never know.


My guy say's I'm his one and only true love.
Not me. I hate guys like that.

You sound like the kind of guy I would have gone for. My guy is like this.

and i'm sorry for that but i know i'm not the only guy that feels that way.



"trustworhty" i try to be. "sweet gentleman" some times. "romantic" never!



i am in no way a perfect gentleman and i'm not going to sit here and try to make you think i am because that would be deceitful. i got my problems and nasty habits like every one els and any guy who acts like hes mister right is most likely the typ of guy thats just trying to get into your pants any way.



you cant unless you meat me and you probably wouldn't think much of me if you did. like i said i am in no way shape or form a perfect gentleman and i'm not going to pretend to be.

You said it yourself. Perhaps some of them do.

They are capable of love, just as women are capable of cheating.

No one is totally innocent.

I always thought I was jaded, but not even close to Gem, no offense intended. I saw my grandparents madly in love for almost 60 years, Grandpa died 6 months before their 60th anniversary. I know it exists for people, I just haven't found it, and don't believe I will this lifetime. Maybe it's also the way the times have changed, people don't seem to fall in love like they did in the "old days". It is too easy to get out of a marriage now and to find someone else.

women ARE instigators.
i admit to having a very short fuse..it's in my blood, but it seems like women like nothing better than to push all the wrong buttons. especially my most recent.. who gave me absolutely nothing but incentive to get angry, yell, break things..like she wasn't happy unless i was acting like a raging lunatic. i never hit her, im always careful when it comes to who or what i lay my hands on. i just regret not sewing her mouth shut

but..i've felt what i thought to be love..only to have it rinsed down the drain without hesitation. i don't think any "true" love is unconditional, only reinforced over time. the longer you're together, the harder you fight to work things out and forgive, forget..move on together. unfortunately i havn't had a relationship worth the sacrifices that are a part of "true love." but that's ok, bachelor's live longer and die happier..and i already have the daughter i want.

another thing i can't stand is the constant confession of love, and the way people feel its necessary to be reminded over and over again that you DO love them.

edit: i always reread and fix things..but you still get my horrible grammar

I am in love and I am loved, but if my 18 year marriage ends, I haven't lost the past and it was true. Know what I mean? That's the way I look at it. Live for now and love for now and things will be good. Karma is good.

that's a good attitude, i appreciate people who KNOW they are in love. more on topic i think any family, i don't care what cultural backgrounds you have, that forces an arranged marriage on someone is sick and sucks

I agree.

"my physcosis" i guess that you are really lucky. you both are, you do seem convinced. good for you.



apology accepted. you actually know other guys who feel that way.... so....um... why exactly dont you try to be romantic?
wait, i know, because thats just who you are.


i didnt mean to imply that i went for the perfect gentleman. you are right, though, i probably would't think much of you because like i said there is no way of knowing. and why do you keep mentioning my pants. this has nothing to do with it. did you actually think i let the next guy who tells me i am the prettiest thing ever get into my pants?? i dont fall for those guy, well currently i havent been falling for any guy. so there.

she broke up with you. didnt she?if you didnt like her why did you stay with her?wow, she drove you to the point you wanted to hit her. i know a guy who wanted to hit me.but for a different reason than talking.


and i thought i was messed up. have you tried anger management. it does help you know.


do they really?

its one way of knowing after a fight.

no, i went to the navy and she went back to school..it didnt start like that, and it had nothing to do with just talking, it was the stupid and provocative things that she would say.

that second thing you quoted was another woman, the one who shares my daughter. but all the same i guess. i actually did mandatory anger management, most of it is garbage and the rest are things that even a clown would not do in public

no i made that up (bachelors don't really live longer and die happier, for certain)

yeah, i know you were being sarcastic. by the way, things work both ways. you are trying to make out men to be jerks, but have not mentioned all the women who go after men to steal their money, and worse. my neighbor had his arms and legs blown off, and his wife beats him up and steals his disability checks. she rolled him down a flight of stairs.

That is true, there are good and bad in both genders.

As to the anger management, it actually teaches people how to be even more manipulative. If a person is going to be mean, they will find a way to do it, whether it is hitting or using words. It seems that certain people just shouldn't be together, that no matter how they try, it won't work. From personal experience I have been in an abusive relationship-why was he abusive? His excuse was that he was afraid I would leave him, so he wanted me terrified to leave., which is what I did, once I had the support to get out. The absence of logic on that one blew me away. So, be nicer instead of abusive would be my way thinking, but as we all know, women and men have totally different thought processes.

well im done in this thread lol, i make myself sound like more of a prick in every new post. but most of it is taken out of context.

wish you all luck in your search for prince charming

I would love to have a little "talk" with this lady female.

well to be quite honest its just i never learned how. every girl i ever got to know and liked i just ended up being really good friends with. thats right! i have never really had a serious relationship. (waits with loaded shotgun for some one to call him a loser or gay)




well its just i see so many guys like that and so many girls who fall for it (and vise versa) and wined up with broken hearts. it just makes me sick. the people who do that are shallow @$$ holes and the people who fall for it are just stupid! i didnt mean to implay you where like that and again im sorry if you thought that. im just telling what i have observed and to be frank it has really just put me off to the hole idea of trying to find true love. BLAAHH!! i say all you really need in life is good friends and your loving family anyway!

amen to that.