b kind enough to take a british ex would ya,texas sounds ideal

*Hugs* I am truely sorry about the outcome of your first two marriages. Maybe have a very long engagement for the next one? I am glad to hear though you have not given up on love

Anyhoo I think you were right to break up with them as they certainly did not deserve you. I do not think you are going to hell because you were not at fault, your family seems to have loyalty issues and until they have sorted themselves out maybe you should take a bit of a sabbatical from them...

When you send them that Christmas card wrap them up a NT Bible as well and tell them to read it...

Star

Hello boys and girls of UM.
Here's a fun little question I want to throw out for discussion:
My family is hyper religious, like 'frothing at the mouth and hitting me with Bibles' Christian, and think that since I was married and divorced by the time I was 19, that I am going to Hell. I did nothing to end the marriage, she cheated then left.
A few years later, I'm off at college, I get a Christmas card from my grandparents that said, and I can quote this: "Merry Christmas. Heard you have a girlfriend. Enjoy Hell."
And now, I'm fixing to get divorced for the second time. Same story, she cheated and left, too. Is it in the air around me or something? Anyway, I haven't heard from my extended family -- my Mom and Dad are actually cool with it, in fact they don't even care if I run around like a pimp on Cialis --on this situation yet, but Christmas ain't here.
So here's my question UMers. I know we all come from various religions, but I'm wondering who, if any, in the Christian community here agrees with my extended family. I'm well over caring where other people say I am going -- like my cousin told me, "If you're going to Hell, I'm going to Hell because you raised me, so I'll bring the stuff to make S'Mores." -- so I am not looking to start a fight (I promise to play nice with the Christians this once ); I'm just wondering how my family can think this way. If you agree with them, please provide scripture or what have you to back up your claim.
So, fire away!

Blimey, it is a wonder they haven't brought a Priest around to your house and forced you to have an exorcism!!!

They actually did try that when I was 12 or 13. LOL.

LOL. Y'all stop giving me bad ideas. That would be pretty funny, the heathen black sheep of the family sending out Bibles for Christmas.
I haven't given on love so much as I have given up on the fast ideas on fidelity and marriage (see my other thread in the community section ) I once had. The world simply didn't work like I expected and demanded it would.
I'm not saying if the right woman came along I wouldn't be faithful, or expect her to be, but something along those lines just seems distant right now. And the idea of ever even considering marriage again, just seems alien right now. I took a big leap the second time to do it, don't know if I have it in me to jump a third time. LOL. But then again, stay tuned. Things can always change with me.

Thanks, PA. I was actually waiting on you to answer this one, as you and Irish seem the most lucid of the Christians here.
And the two that I can tolerate the easiest, both of y'all are very calm and understanding about your faith. LOL. You're credits to the religion.
at the Christmas card idea. I am just evil enough to do that.
I'm aware of those verses. Which just makes it harder to understand my family's rejection of my search for happiness. I mean, I got jacked. Yes, I made vows twice and somewhere in what passes for my heart, I still believe them, even the ones I made to the first wife, but I got to move on, find some happiness. How does their religion twist them so badly that they cannot understand or even want their own nephew, cousin, grandson to be happy? It is just very depressing that my fidelity and search for happiness has divided my family to the point that I won't speak to any of my grandparents, most of my cousins, and all but one of my aunts.
I mean, by my wives cheating they have narrowed down my family and support group drastically. Thank God my friends and UM rock the proverbial Kasbah! LOL

Hello boys and girls of UM.
Here's a fun little question I want to throw out for discussion:
My family is hyper religious, like 'frothing at the mouth and hitting me with Bibles' Christian, and think that since I was married and divorced by the time I was 19, that I am going to Hell. I did nothing to end the marriage, she cheated then left.
A few years later, I'm off at college, I get a Christmas card from my grandparents that said, and I can quote this: "Merry Christmas. Heard you have a girlfriend. Enjoy Hell."
And now, I'm fixing to get divorced for the second time. Same story, she cheated and left, too. Is it in the air around me or something? Anyway, I haven't heard from my extended family -- my Mom and Dad are actually cool with it, in fact they don't even care if I run around like a pimp on Cialis --on this situation yet, but Christmas ain't here.
So here's my question UMers. I know we all come from various religions, but I'm wondering who, if any, in the Christian community here agrees with my extended family. I'm well over caring where other people say I am going -- like my cousin told me, "If you're going to Hell, I'm going to Hell because you raised me, so I'll bring the stuff to make S'Mores." -- so I am not looking to start a fight (I promise to play nice with the Christians this once ); I'm just wondering how my family can think this way. If you agree with them, please provide scripture or what have you to back up your claim.
So, fire away!

Simep answer yes

jerry lee lewis had a song about this...it went something like this...

ain't nothin' in the world like a big eyed girl, make me act so funny, make me spend my money, make me feel real loose like a long neck goose,
ooooooooo..... i like it like that....

number three may already be on the way...lol

randomhit10

My relatives think this way too. I'll be in for non-believing. Well, we can both laugh about it in hell I guess

But we shouldn't worry, because God still loves us!!

What really confuses me is this: they say that God forgives all, he loves his children, etc etc etc. However, if this is true, then how can a "Hell" exist? He forgives all, therefore, nobody would be going to Hell - it just sounds like something somebody made up to keep little children in line. I think the only reason somebody would go to Hell would be if they followed Satan's path, killed hundreds of people, and went against God completely. That's the only reason I could see somebody going to "Hell" for.

Ahoy,
As I understand it, you must ask for forgiveness and be repentant of your ‘sin.” “Hell” is for the unrepentant. I guess after we die, it is too late to say, “oops, sorry.”

There are many religion's that believe your married for life unless your spouse dies before you..Go figure...My family is very religious also Granfather was a preacher,And i was tought the same thing growing up with a little twist, I was told that God will always consider your first spouse as your true mate.....So why is there two stories to this tale...Well cause they are both B.S...God does not want you stay with a person that cheats, lies's or in my case beats on you....

I say your family is wrong and maybe they need to read the bible closer, God tells you to not judge other's.....

I have meet people who would not break their vow's no matter what was done to them and to be honest i think they are wrong, Love can make you blind..But that does not mean it has to make you stupid also....I believe that everything happens for a reason and God already knows what we are going to do and why, I can understand why your family feel's the way they do, But with that said i also believe that their love for you should out weigh anything negative they would feel about your not being a push over, The sad thing here is the fact that they rather see you in a unhappy marrige with a person that you can't trust, Next time they start to quote the bible and the law's of God, I remind them rather kindly that one of Gods laws is "" Thy not cheat"" and that God does not expect you to live with a person that broke one of his law's...