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Is It OK For the Girl to Propose?

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Is It OK For the Girl to Propose? No Way, Study Suggests

Despite loosening of gender roles at work and in society as a whole, men and women are remarkably traditional when it comes to marriage, new research finds.

In fact, the study of college students at a liberal-leaning university found that not a single man or woman wanted a proposal in which the woman asked the man to marry her. And while 60 percent of women said they were "very willing" or "somewhat willing" to change their surname to their husband's upon marriage, 64 percent of men said they were "very unwilling" or "somewhat unwilling" to do the same for their wives.

"These topics are something that most people deal with and that most people decide to do in a traditional way," said study researcher Rachael Robnett, a graduate student in psychology at the University of California, Santa Cruz.

Source: http://www.livescien...e-marriage.html

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I guess I wouldn't have a problem if the woman proposed. But, I really don't think I'd ever take my wife's name....

Strange how that works.

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I would definitely take my girlfriend's last name because then together our initials would be E & K G... or EKG. :w00t:

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I can't see myself proposing or getting proposed too.

I see me dating someone for a long time and us like eating pizza on the coach and one of us saying "we should get married" and other one saying "k. whatever"

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"Will you marry me darling ?"

(Representation of what I would hear as I head for the distant hills!)

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I can't see why not, personally.

Mind you, I asked a girl to marry me once and she said I deserved better then her, I'm unable to read interpersonal signals at the best of times (too ASD) so if the girl took the iniative like that it'd probably be much easier on us both!

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In some jurisdictions, anyone who gets married or divorced may change their name is they wish. I was not permitted to take on the names of Gandalf or Thorin for some reason.

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I don't see anything wrong with it.

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A marriage proposal from the girl is not something bad, in my opinion. If my girlfriend asks me to keep her surname after our marriage, i'd had no problem letting her keep it, but i really don't know, if i would take her surname...

Edited by CuriousGreek

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I honestly believe it is the guys duty to ask a woman/girl all the facets of such things. It goes hand in hand with being able to protect and provide, as if the future wife gets pregnant, he can keep the family afloat while she is unable to work as an example.

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was always more of a mutual thing with me, I guess. "Hey...what do you think about getting married?" Etc.

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Easier to blame it on the man if something goes wrong. "It was your idea!"

Women are supposedly the ones who are pushing and hinting for marriage all the time. it's the man who ususally has cold feet. So if he proposes, then he really means it, I guess.

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I'd rather buy cats.

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It doesn't matter who asks since both parties still have to decide together ultimately.

As for a male taking on a female's surname, well that is not what is really happening, he would be taking her father's surname in all actuality. If we had a true system where both males and females passed down their own surnames it might be different but as of now the guy would just be taking some other older dude's surname.

I honestly believe it is the guys duty to ask a woman/girl all the facets of such things. It goes hand in hand with being able to protect and provide, as if the future wife gets pregnant, he can keep the family afloat while she is unable to work as an example.

Females as primary breadwinners exist. Females who work while their partners are unable to exist. But I get your point.

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Females as primary breadwinners exist. Females who work while their partners are unable to exist. But I get your point.

Oh yes I don't deny that, I hope I didn't come across as sexist or anything but women are the ones who get pregnant :P Some women enforce the man protecting them and providing for them notion, others take the helm.

I personally wouldn't want a woman to propose to me or anything of the sort. Usually Id go with the mutual decision but generally if I know them Id know how they would want it so that's how I'd do it accordingly. I don't think it's any real big deal but whatever makes them happy for some little kneeling action is ok with me.

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Yeah, woman proposes... and a man better do the cooking, dishes and babysit as well

Edited by FlyingAngel

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Results from MSN said every guy wasn't a fan of the woman proposing deal. I tend to agree...a woman proposing to me would make me wonder what the hell is going on, and if there's something wrong with her, might even seem like she's uber clingy as well.

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Hmmm... I think the OP's question is a really good one.

Never really thought about it before, I guess.

"Tradition"(the male proposing) has a funny way of influencing society to be regarded as the "norm", though I see no reason for keeping it.

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If it is love then it is love. Love knows no boundaries and can even break tradition. I myself do not see any wrong if women propose to their loved one. I find it sweet and brave.

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i think it's usually the 'girl's' idea. They just have a way of making it seem it was our idea! .. i think it's called entrapment :w00t:

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I'm going to propose right before someone proposes to me, just to ruin it for them.

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I'm going to propose right before someone proposes to me, just to ruin it for them.

It just wouldn't work out Hasina... It would be a mixed marriage - you're from Texas and I'm from Oklahoma - just wouldn't work ...

Sorry... :D

(couldn't resist it!)

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It just wouldn't work out Hasina... It would be a mixed marriage - you're from Texas and I'm from Oklahoma - just wouldn't work ...

Sorry... :D

(couldn't resist it!)

That or you're a tornado and I'm a hurricane. ;D

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Is It OK For the Girl to Propose? No Way, Study Suggests

Despite loosening of gender roles at work and in society as a whole, men and women are remarkably traditional when it comes to marriage, new research finds.

In fact, the study of college students at a liberal-leaning university found that not a single man or woman wanted a proposal in which the woman asked the man to marry her. And while 60 percent of women said they were "very willing" or "somewhat willing" to change their surname to their husband's upon marriage, 64 percent of men said they were "very unwilling" or "somewhat unwilling" to do the same for their wives.

"These topics are something that most people deal with and that most people decide to do in a traditional way," said study researcher Rachael Robnett, a graduate student in psychology at the University of California, Santa Cruz.

Source: http://www.livescien...e-marriage.html

I like it on that odd occasion when a woman has the confidence to ask for a date. If I got a proposal off one it wouldnt mind either.

But taking the womans surname is not happening lol.

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What if every couple got to decide on a new surname?

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