Irony and other rants
I wrote a blog about 3 years ago. It was called, the difference between nothing and silence.
It was about how my husband sometimes ignores me, shuts me out and there is nothing I can do to get back in or no reason as to why he has done it. It's a cruel passive aggressive way to behave.
For the past 2 years that man has not been in my house, my husband has been caring and loving. He has shown me I am important to him, although I never really felt like he was in love with me or that he understood what it really meant to love someone, he did seem to care and deeply and treated me well. For those 2 years.
I don't know why he changed so much, I was hoping it was because of our accident, a life altering event that had brought about lasting change. But I suspect sometimes it was just his competitive nature, when he sensed the competition was on he upped the anti, acted at caring, behaved in a way that looked like love. And now that the competition looks as though it has been won he doesn't have to pretend any more.
The cruelest thing about being shut out or ignored, not spoken to for days on end is that unless you have been put through it you can't possibly understand how awful it really is. You feel as though no one understands they make jokes like, 'God I wish my husband would be quiet, at least that way I could get some peace.'
I think God I wish my husband would yell at or call me names at least that way you could see the pain he causes. Or I would know what I'd done wrong.
Well its been 3 days of being ignored and it looks like his back. While I have sat at home being a dutiful wife, he has returned as the triumphant King of Passive Aggressiva. He is due back tomorrow and the last message I sent him was to let him know how hurt I was feeling, that was 3 hours ago and he hasn't bothered responding to that one either. Nothing...
In my difference between Nothing and silence blog. I pointed out that one man I know had taken a second to look at me just a little longer than was necessary, a quiet, thoughtful seconds silence.
I have since learned I can live without silence but I'm not sure that I can live forever with nothing.
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