What or who we truly are is not yet known
I agree that being a loving person is something humans are not. Yet we strive to become loving and in that we call upon the Lord for grace and healing. Self knowledge allows us to see our need and woundedness without despairing, or having our ego shattered. Jesus as the Word has loved us into existence and will bring what he has started in our hearts to fruition. What or who we truly are is not yet known or understood, yet it is the Lord who knows our true name, our true essence and one day we will learn it as well.