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I don't know if you are right or not but I have found that cognitive therapy is the only one that shows results, however if the results aren't seen in 6 weeks of that therapy it is a waste of time to go any further because the person chooses not to change their perspective.  That's all it is is changing your perspective.  In the 80's there was a book by Jon Roger called Life 101.  It was short and sweet and to the point.  If you find a current copy of that book his name is not on it and it has a lot of convoluted crap added to make the whole subject confusing, (much like A Course in Miricles or the bible or any other book that people decide to use to get followers).  Anyway.  One chapter was "Life is nothing pretending to be something" and the chapter just went in to the description of atoms and how much empty space there is.  Another chapter was titled "Nothing is personal". 

I worked with a woman at the time that I read that book, and had already been thinking about this because my life seemed like "s***t" but really was just my perspective and my inability to let go of incorrect perceptions.  But the woman I mention was a very good example of what I needed to see.  We had a boss who was always fighting with his wife and I knew that but I don't think anyone else did.  I used to ride up in the elevator with them every morning and he was always grumpy and rude with us.  This woman, Kelly, would close her door and cry at her desk if the boss did not tell her good morning, sure that he hated her.  Once she admitted that to me and I was shocked that a grown woman would be so sensitive, not realizing the guy was just an ass.  I told her he was only taking out his anger at his wife on us and she should never take any of it personally.  She really  hated her job, too. Wanted to be an accountant instead of a computer programmer but her dad and husband had told her to be a programmer so she could earn more money (which was not true at the time).  When she decided to quit and her husband assured her they did not need her income she became a completely different person.  Happy and confident.