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Why Do Some People Only Have Bad Luck?


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Some of us are just tested in different ways. A Christian friend once said to me many years ago that he couldn't understand why I was broken by it,I was always happy and undeterred,I told him that what he saw as bad luck, I saw as answers to some of my questions. :lol: What happens if I do this,... kaboom :lol:

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I am beginning to think that there are people who are unfortunate.  I can't compare myself to Anne Frank but l occasionally think of how much she hated being locked up in the hideout. All the while writing her story. Good god to think she didn't know any better and that in her future she would have killed to get back that locked up house. I am not comparing my life to hers for l can't. Also, l now, realise l had luxury. Luxury in being clothed, hot water, warmth and food. All the while l was blind to the outside world.  The beauty in sun, rain, wind, trees all to see. I'm 45 now and just before my 40th birthday l wanted to end my life. I had a dog though and didn't wan to leave him but thought l kill my dog and me by the car method.  I 'd get pills, wine and imagined me falling asleep however l also saw and thought what if l hurt my dog. I saw him becoming agitated.... 

My 40th birthday was horrible. Any way l lived on.  Fast forward 5 years and in that time l witness a parent die. I broke my own heart. I was given a harsh lesson in finding that romance, love could be so bad. I wasn't worldly in romance and had to learn that men could be horrid in a matter of weeks.  Wish l learned that when l was younger, when your supposed too. Had a job. Had money, debt free, bought a flat. Lost job, can't get job, in debt now and resigned to being single. 

In a way l wish l took my life .....

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Aw.....so sad ! This good old Aussie song has the right advice !

 

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1 hour ago, Dinalife said:

I am beginning to think that there are people who are unfortunate.  I can't compare myself to Anne Frank but l occasionally think of how much she hated being locked up in the hideout. All the while writing her story. Good god to think she didn't know any better and that in her future she would have killed to get back that locked up house. I am not comparing my life to hers for l can't. Also, l now, realise l had luxury. Luxury in being clothed, hot water, warmth and food. All the while l was blind to the outside world.  The beauty in sun, rain, wind, trees all to see. I'm 45 now and just before my 40th birthday l wanted to end my life. I had a dog though and didn't wan to leave him but thought l kill my dog and me by the car method.  I 'd get pills, wine and imagined me falling asleep however l also saw and thought what if l hurt my dog. I saw him becoming agitated.... 

My 40th birthday was horrible. Any way l lived on.  Fast forward 5 years and in that time l witness a parent die. I broke my own heart. I was given a harsh lesson in finding that romance, love could be so bad. I wasn't worldly in romance and had to learn that men could be horrid in a matter of weeks.  Wish l learned that when l was younger, when your supposed too. Had a job. Had money, debt free, bought a flat. Lost job, can't get job, in debt now and resigned to being single. 

In a way l wish l took my life .....

Well, don't be so glum, things could be worse. Much worse ! You could have a debilitating illness, or even a terminal one. You could be languishing in jail convicted of a crime you did not commit. It really isn't hard to see how things could be intractably worse. If you have good health, you have a fortune, everything else is secondary. 

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On 10/14/2016 at 2:20 AM, Dinalife said:

I am beginning to think that there are people who are unfortunate.  I can't compare myself to Anne Frank but l occasionally think of how much she hated being locked up in the hideout. All the while writing her story. Good god to think she didn't know any better and that in her future she would have killed to get back that locked up house. I am not comparing my life to hers for l can't. Also, l now, realise l had luxury. Luxury in being clothed, hot water, warmth and food. All the while l was blind to the outside world.  The beauty in sun, rain, wind, trees all to see. I'm 45 now and just before my 40th birthday l wanted to end my life. I had a dog though and didn't wan to leave him but thought l kill my dog and me by the car method.  I 'd get pills, wine and imagined me falling asleep however l also saw and thought what if l hurt my dog. I saw him becoming agitated.... 

My 40th birthday was horrible. Any way l lived on.  Fast forward 5 years and in that time l witness a parent die. I broke my own heart. I was given a harsh lesson in finding that romance, love could be so bad. I wasn't worldly in romance and had to learn that men could be horrid in a matter of weeks.  Wish l learned that when l was younger, when your supposed too. Had a job. Had money, debt free, bought a flat. Lost job, can't get job, in debt now and resigned to being single. 

In a way l wish l took my life .....

Luck is partially a matter of perspective. You dwell on the negative and you live in a personal hell. I've had my fair share of bad luck. Honestly everyone does to a greater and lesser degree. It's all in how you deal with it. Reading your store kinda makes me laugh, your problems are so mundane compared to me. Think for a moment about those who actually have it worse than you. Because they exist and somehow they have the will to survive. 

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Even if you ignore that different people will respond to a given situation differently, different people will experience different amounts of good and bad luck. It's simple probability.

Regarding the first part of the issue, I remember a talk by Simon Singh in which he described his investigation into luck. He said that some people simply can't see their good luck when they experience it; the example he gave was of a person who jointly won a lottery - the winner could only see the bad luck in the fact that, finally, after his numbers came up, he had to share the jackpot with someone else, and somehow completely missed the fact that he'd won the jackpot.

But to the probability part. It's a simple fact of life that some things happen to us which are completely out of our control, and so whether they happen to us or to someone else is a simple matter of probability. For example, your chance of being struck by lightning some time in your life is 1 in 12,000 (thanks Google). That means that most people will never be struck by lightning. But given that there are 7 billion+ people on Earth, that means some people will have the bad luck to be struck twice, and it's likely a very small number of people have been struck more times than that.

But here's another example of pure probability: Imagine you have a group of workers who agree to be paid by this unusual method. At the end of each month each worker rolls an ordinary dice, multiplies the score by $1000, and gets paid that amount. So if you roll a 4 you get $4000 and if you roll a 2 you get $2000. After two months worker A rolled 1 and 1, and so got $2000 for the two months work, and worker B rolled 6 and 6, and so got $12000 for the two months work. Most of the other workers would have rolled a total around 6 to 8 for the two months, and so earned $6000 to $8000. Did worker A do anything to earn less? Did worker B do anything to earn more? No, in each case. It was simply a matter of probability.

Now if you continued that method of paying workers out for several years, it's likely that they'll all earn around the average, and extreme results will be less and less likely. But it isn't impossible for extreme results to occur, even if the dice are perfectly fair.

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Change your focus, change your life.

Lost my licence 4 times, got them back in record time each time-luck? Looking for opportunities!

Gave up or lost a few very rewarding careers-starting another one each time after a little down time-my focus shifts to possibilities to the good when I'm struggling and everything else falls into line.

When bad things happen my response is always, oh darn what's next, in a positive manner..

Then I actually start looking for solutions.

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I think there's no such thing as luck, It's just a word used to simplify an explanation of a misfortune (in case It's bad). There is always a reason behind any action or event.. but if you wanna talk about something like throwing a dice, it's all based on probabilities, If you're walking and you get hit by a dude in a bike.. It's not bad luck It's lack of attention of your surroundings, and etc.

Therefore, I do not believe in luck.

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On 30/07/2013 at 10:28 AM, spud the mackem said:

Hows this for "Bad Luck", this weeks lottery numbers...12..13..18..39..43..49.....my numbers..11..14..17..26..39..43....not a penny,oh well never mind.

Is not about wining the lottery that might be as good as it can be turn bad for others.

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On 22/10/2016 at 11:34 PM, Noctil said:

I think there's no such thing as luck, It's just a word used to simplify an explanation of a misfortune (in case It's bad). There is always a reason behind any action or event.. but if you wanna talk about something like throwing a dice, it's all based on probabilities, If you're walking and you get hit by a dude in a bike.. It's not bad luck It's lack of attention of your surroundings, and etc.

Therefore, I do not believe in luck.

I looked for this page just because it does seems like everything is against me. I’m nothing but a positive person but after the latest event everyone who knows me said I think it has to be you because I don’t know any one else who could cope with all the disasters your keep facing. And it’s a very weird feeling keep thinking that it could of been worse. Of course it could. But it’s getting harder every time to move forward. Not talking here about little things but not about the nasty stuff neither just things that make my life really difficult. I don’t want a good luck I just want nothing else to happen and let me be positive. I can’t predict everything and end up paranoid.

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Some people do tend to get the **** end of the stick more than their fair share of the time. 

And it's rarely the people who might deserve it.

Take it up with management. 

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Generally speaking, the older you get the more crap happens to you. I've buried my brother, my daughter, both my parents and my best friend. Bad luck, or just that I was the one who survived? I do admit that some people seem to have less hardship in life though. I attribute this to the random nature of life. 

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What will happen, will happen whether you believe in good or bad luck, if you're gonna be hit by a bus you are in the wrong place at the wrong time ,but if you had left the house 10 seconds earlier ,or 10 seconds later that bus would have missed you, its all down to Fate, and you can't alter it. 

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Bad luck is the norm--just ask any patron of a Las Vegas casino. People who do have good luck are just fugitives from the Law of Averages, or have their own methods to cope with a statistical universe.

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1 minute ago, Hammerclaw said:

.Bad luck is the norm--just ask any patron of a Las Vegas casino. People who do have good luck are just fugitives from the Law of Averages, or have their own methods to cope with a statistical universe.

The chances of you walking away with a fortune are about the same as trying to win the lottery as all the games are set to take your money, But if they do pay out its maybe one in a million  so if you happen to be that person ,you win and you happened to be in the right place at the right time, but again that's not Luck its Fate as you happened to play that machine on an urge to spend some money ,in the hope that you may win. 

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I'm not a great believer in luck, but sometimes you just have to wonder...

You get up from your chair the same as any other day, but this day you whack your knee on the desk. You have a slice of toast, but this day it drops on the floor - buttered side down. You take a nap, but this day your neighbour unexpectedly starts up with power tools.

Most likely coincidence, but you still wonder how all these little things seem to converge at once...

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On 9/18/2016 at 1:14 AM, ChaosRose said:

There sure do seem to be people who suffer more than their fair share of bad luck. And then there are those who can fall in s*** and end up smelling like roses. Nobody knows the why of it.

I think bad and good luck surrounds all of us as choices to be made at a given time. 

It's all about chances available to us to make the right choice at certain moments. It includes many things beyond our control as well. It's seems to be a matter of following intuiation to avoid bad things or seize the opportunity of the good things. 

So many random choices that you make can be life altering in good or bad ways.  It's a subject that deserves much contemplation of how it can work  to our advantage. 

It's really amazing to ponder the good and bad luck in one's life. Hindsight is such a contemplation that most people see when they make a wrong choice. They should also ponder how the really good luck happened too!  

In my opinion intuition is the controller of good and bad luck. Sometimes you just know not to be at a certain place. 

An example is like when you have a strong feeling to avoid a daily place that you go everyday and later you find out it had a shooting there. 

Would you have been shot  if you didn't have that intuition and went there? You really don't have the answer but it it makes you think it's all about the right choices that you make or don't make. 

Little choices can have big effects on one's life and  what you think are the big choices can also have little effects on the outcomes. 

Luck is just chance and sometimes ability to have the  opportunity to make a  right choice  at the right time. It's an amazing  thing to contemplate seriously. 

 

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Maybe luck and misfortune are tied to personality. I’m easily bored with routine, so when life takes an unexpected turn I look forward to a new adventure.

Last summer I drove to town to run errands, and after stopping for lunch my car unexpectedly refused to start. I had it towed to a repair shop that was in the neighborhood where I lived as a kid. While the mechanic was running tests, I went for a long walk through the old neighborhood, and a flood of memories from my youth put me into a sort of nostalgic trance. I had a great afternoon.

Some misfortunes are much more serious, of course, though looking back I can see that misfortune is a better teacher than good fortune. The difficult times grant more wisdom than the easy times.

 

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On 14. 01. 2015. at 11:55 PM, michael1_4 said:

I don't buy into this thought that luck is all in one's head or "you make your own luck". There definitely is good luck and bad luck and we really have no control over it. For example remember that tsunami that hit Indonesia in 2004? Those people who were killed weren't doing anything wrong. They were just on vacation. It was just terrible luck. Luck is totally random and we have no control over it. I've had some terrible luck in my life. Yes, I can control how I react to it, but the actual thing that happened I had no control over. The only thing one can control is their reaction to it.

It's how we humans percieve it.

People form their own perceptions of what good looks like, and what evil looks like.

What nature knows is survival. That tsunami is just normal natural process for her.If there were no humans nature will still make that tsunami.

A gazelle instinctively knows a lion is danger. A gazelle does not know a lion in terms of being evil or bad, but in terms of being dangerous to its survival.

 Imagine that there is no humans on earth and we spectate earth and that tsunami from one monitor, for us it will be scary thing because its dangerous for our survival, but for earth it is just normal thing. We are not important to earth.

We come to find what may look "evil", eventually serves the good, and what we may think is "good", may eventually serve its polar opposite.

There are two polarities that emerge from one source.There is no good or evil in nature. And there are no moral facts. What you have is atoms and energy whizzing through the Void.

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14 minutes ago, Relam said:

It's how we humans percieve it.

People form their own perceptions of what good looks like, and what evil looks like.

What nature knows is survival. That tsunami is just normal natural process for her.If there were no humans nature will still make that tsunami.

A gazelle instinctively knows a lion is danger. A gazelle does not know a lion in terms of being evil or bad, but in terms of being dangerous to its survival.

 Imagine that there is no humans on earth and we spectate earth and that tsunami from one monitor, for us it will be scary thing because its dangerous for our survival, but for earth it is just normal thing. We are not important to earth.

We come to find what may look "evil", eventually serves the good, and what we may think is "good", may eventually serve its polar opposite.

There are two polarities that emerge from one source.There is no good or evil in nature. And there are no moral facts. What you have is atoms and energy whizzing through the Void.

It does seem a bit like whack a mole. 

Fix something over here and five new problems pop up over there. 

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On 7/30/2013 at 10:29 PM, Eldorado said:

Most times, you make your own luck. In my humble opinion.

you can only make your own luck when you're in a favourable position to do so. otherwise you hang on tight and hope for the best. and there's your luck. 

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