Should I Get a Sex Change?

[mcmsinger]

I honestly really feel like I am a male to female transsexual and that I have gender identity disorder.

Than why not just get a sex change?

Why am I asking?

Well because many trans people end up homeless, broke and shunned by society after the sex change. Especially male to females trans people.

Will a sex change be successful for me? Is it right for me? Am I really trans? Will I be happy with sex change and peaceful? Or Does your reading show it is best not to do it due to problems from it, unhappiness or it can be addressed with some other way successfully? Will I be more happier and successful in the long-term than without it? Or does your reading show I even not only should do it but NEED it?

Please give me some guidance. I know you can't give medical advice and I shouldn't do it or not do it based upon a reading but I just need some perspective if you will.

I also have some level of psychic abilities but they are not too advanced and are usually not workable on command. So please help me and give me some advice and insight.

thanks

Edited October 6, 2013 by mcmsinger

[+and-then]

Your appeal makes me wish I had some comforting advice but all I can say is that I'll pray for you to find peace with whatever decision you finally make. I think people can only truly understand such things when they are personally faced with them. I cannot imagine such a choice but I know that our Creator loves all of us and wants the best for all. My best wishes for your peace and happiness!

[Simbi Laveau]

I know some people like to ask these things on a public forum, but if you feel the need to ask this way, I would say no, not until you've spoken to someone at length about it, everything it entails, and to other transsexuals who are post op.

I'm guessing you have done the last two, but even so, you need more time to decide this is my feeling on it.

[Resh]

I say do it

[Frank Merton]

For once I agree with Simbi; don't do it until you are sure.

If you become a woman, try to become an ordinary woman, not a glamorous woman. Glamor seems to be to me one of the problems transsexuals have silly notions about that most women just aren't interested in.

[Skep B]

*Disclaimer, I'm not a psychic....im sure this isnt a surprise to anyone*

If you feel like this is the only way you will be happy, and you have thought on this for a long time, and have a good support structure around you, then you should begin making the steps.

You WILL suffer for it, you WILL be persecuted. But, if theres no other way for you to be happy.

Then its really the only option you have.

[spartan max2]

You just have to decide what path would make you happier.

I wouldn't make a big move like that until I was entirely sure that is what I wanted.

People will judge you that is a cold fact.

**** them! live your life how you want.

Edited October 6, 2013 by spartan max2

[Bendy Demon]

Your outsides will never be a determining factor of who you are inside.

In other words, you can change everything you want on your body but that won't change the "you" that resides within it.

There are, for example, lots of people who had cosmetic (not restorative) plastic surgery with the mindset that it was somehow going to magically change everything for them and for a very short while they thought it had but then the same old problems resurfaced. If you want to feel "comfortable" within then that has to originate from within and let it ebb outward, not the other way around else you are just fooling yourself.

[libstaK]

If you need some affirmation that it is the right thing to do - then you are by no means ready to go through with it.

[Likely Guy]

If you need some affirmation that it is the right thing to do ...

...especially from a bunch of anonymous people on a web-forum. You are not ready.

[nothinglizx2]

Well as far as being transgendered. I was and I tried everything I could not to be, but after about 15 to 20 years of PTSD from it, signing up with the army, and marrying a woman, her cheating on me and being extremely lazy, and then eventually breaking up, my mind started to slip and I went crazy and the whole dorm got to see me go bye-bye. It was not pretty. I had to go to a social worker and get some counseling. So November 2004 I started my sex change. I had always wanted it and then I found out I needed it. Cause I was psychologically dying.

When doing what's best for yourself, you can't think of all the things against you, you won't get anywhere like that. You just put one foot infront of the other and when the problems arise deal with it then. But you don't want to ever not know what might have been. Maybe the change will do you good. But you must decide for you. You can't worry about what anyone, especially your people in your family will think, cause if you do, you will get scared and walk away from it. Not being accepted is what we do best. However we are the stronger for it. It is easier to see how much we more we are loved by God, when everyone hates you for what you are. Cause he is using you as a way to change peoples thinking, their insecurities and their fears. Truly I found that you won't be able to do any of this unless you have the support of God and that will take some level of peace with him. Until you do, you won't get anywhere.

[Simbi Laveau]

I don't agree with the comments about being judged.

I have quite a few pre and post op transgendered friends.

I would say all are happy with their choices.

One told me, she woke up every single day miserable, and longed for the operation.

I actually tried to talk her out of it initially for all the creases I listed in my first post, but she was ready.

She went through with it, and has never been happier.

He now worries about being judged by people he doesn't know, but all of us that knew him as her, could care less.

[Leonardo]

*snip*

Am I really trans?

*snip*

You have to answer this question before seeking advice on anything else. And only you can answer this question.

[Lava_Lady]

I honestly really feel like I am a male to female transsexual and that I have gender identity disorder.

Than why not just get a sex change?

Why am I asking?

Well because many trans people end up homeless, broke and shunned by society after the sex change. Especially male to females trans people.

Will a sex change be successful for me? Is it right for me? Am I really trans? Will I be happy with sex change and peaceful? Or Does your reading show it is best not to do it due to problems from it, unhappiness or it can be addressed with some other way successfully? Will I be more happier and successful in the long-term than without it? Or does your reading show I even not only should do it but NEED it?

Please give me some guidance. I know you can't give medical advice and I shouldn't do it or not do it based upon a reading but I just need some perspective if you will.

I also have some level of psychic abilities but they are not too advanced and are usually not workable on command. So please help me and give me some advice and insight.

thanks

At what stage of your transition are you in? You can't just go to a surgeon and have your genitals changed. Obviously you are aware it's a drastic and permanent change, are you aware that you will be required to see a psychologist regarding the issue and live your life as a female for at least a year before they will even consider surgery for you?

If you have a smidgeon of a feeling that you want to change your gender, go to a professional to talk about it, meet up with TG people that have similar issues.

Don't, like a few have said already, get advice from random people online.

Unless, of course, you are one of those hit and run people that like to get a lot of hits by posting controversial posts that are total BS. If that's the case, may you be infested by the fleas of a thousand camels.

[White Crane Feather]

You are either sure or not about these things. You are not. Wait until you are.

[joz48]

what makes you ask the question?

it's because your unsure and want guidance.....you don't get guidance here for the most part just opinion.

do yourself the biggest favor you could ever do and speak to a specialist who deals with the physical and mental effects of having this done. Only then will you have the information you need to make such a life changing decision.

Good Luck

[keninsc]

Wow, a sex change is not something to be taken lightly at all. First of all, you could simply be gay and into the fem side of it. I have gay friends and there is no stereotype or fixed pattern. Some females are butch as hell, but women. Some guys are fem as hell, but men. I don't know you well enough to give you a meaningful answer, but I highly recommend that you seek professional guidance in this and don't simply head off somewhere and have it whacked off only to discover later in life you were just gay and couldn't deal with it, and yes there are cases where that has happened.

Now, having said all that, I do have a friend who did the gender reassignment thing and he/she is very happy with the change. I still have confusion issues about which gender to call him/her but that is my issue. You have to understand he and I were Buds and used to have a great time together chasing women.......now he's a woman. So, yeah, I have an issue keeping it straight. Every pun intended.

Just understand that once you have it done, the odds of having undone and you remain functional is astronomical. So get it right to begin with.

[Henriy]

Why would you want to change sex? Do you have sexual problems? Simply by changing the sexual surgery, but the surgery is not so easy to stick, the latter may be more painful, may also come from outside pressure, the pressure of family and friends, you should seriously think about this question, and then go action, do not regret it in the future.

Personally feel that nothing bad will happen, do not take the risk, do your own good, give yourself a little self-confidence, not easy to change sex, this is a big project.