White Unicorn Posted January 29, 2014 #126 Share Posted January 29, 2014 Yeah, you're probably right. It is a tough situation for me... apparently not so much for her. The tough situation probably happened to her first but you didn't see the warning signals soon enough. Has she given you any positive signs lately by talking or listening more ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pallidin Posted January 29, 2014 Author #127 Share Posted January 29, 2014 The tough situation probably happened to her first but you didn't see the warning signals soon enough. Has she given you any positive signs lately by talking or listening more ? Soon enough? No. Positive signs? I have talked with her a lot about this, and does not seem to help at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pallidin Posted January 29, 2014 Author #128 Share Posted January 29, 2014 Look, everyone.... I'm not the most endowed man on this planet, but I would like to have intimacy every now and again. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
psyche101 Posted January 29, 2014 #129 Share Posted January 29, 2014 Look, everyone.... I'm not the most endowed man on this planet, but I would like to have intimacy every now and again. I am honestly not sure that has anything to do with anything, most of the females I have met say size does not matter, and they have no reason to lie, Stanley weighs in at just a fraction short of the stereotypical nine inches, if anything, I have had complaints of "too much" is painful and not good for duration. That's why one does not brag about one's manhood. If I find myself in a situation where bragging is warranted I just casually mention that I can lick my eyebrows. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Id3al Experience Posted January 29, 2014 #130 Share Posted January 29, 2014 My question is now" Why after 17 yrs she stop having sex? I mean she has already sinned, so shes asked for forgiveness (God's) and cuts you off? You no longer sleep in the same bed? Why? I didnt think cuddling was a sin? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pallidin Posted January 29, 2014 Author #131 Share Posted January 29, 2014 My question is now" Why after 17 yrs she stop having sex? I mean she has already sinned, so shes asked for forgiveness (God's) and cuts you off? You no longer sleep in the same bed? Why? I didnt think cuddling was a sin? I would like for you to have this exact same conversation with her. She's not an internet type of person, but I will ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrBene Posted January 30, 2014 #132 Share Posted January 30, 2014 (edited) Listen Pallidin, I've read the whole thread and read many answers from the rest of the forum and I believe I'm perhaps the younger poster here (30) but my piece of advice is: bro, you're not done or finished yet. You're actually young and you feel young and you feel like you don't deserve this and seriously you don't. Your "wife" seems to not understand how things should be and perhaps bro, she doesn't seem to see the relationship in the same way as you so, you both are not in the same boat. She knows she might have a medical condition and despite of that fact she refuses to get help or refuses to get help from you. She told you a lame excuse for not doing something that is natural and beautiful. Sex. Make love. Whatever. It is natural and it is beautiful. Your wife is done with it. You aren't. Then you should move forward bro. It sounds painful and probably sounds illogical after 17 years of being together but seriously, you're not done and you're not finished. You're not even near the grave and she wants to shut you down. No. Don't do it. Don't try to find a solution in a glass of alcohol, I think you should give her your reasons and give her an ultimatum and go on with your life. I know you love her, but seriously, she doesn't care about your reasons (which are logical and natural) and she doesn't want to understand. My suggestion is: move on with your life. Perhaps a time on her own makes her realise that you are way more important than stupid spiritual ideas. Edited January 30, 2014 by MrBene Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pallidin Posted January 30, 2014 Author #133 Share Posted January 30, 2014 Listen Pallidin, I've read the whole thread and read many answers from the rest of the forum and I believe I'm perhaps the younger poster here (30) but my piece of advice is: bro, you're not done or finished yet. You're actually young and you feel young and you feel like you don't deserve this and seriously you don't. Your "wife" seems to not understand how things should be and perhaps bro, she doesn't seem to see the relationship in the same way as you so, you both are not in the same boat. She knows she might have a medical condition and despite of that fact she refuses to get help or refuses to get help from you. She told you a lame excuse for not doing something that is natural and beautiful. Sex. Make love. Whatever. It is natural and it is beautiful. Your wife is done with it. You aren't. Then you should move forward bro. It sounds painful and probably sounds illogical after 17 years of being together but seriously, you're not done and you're not finished. You're not even near the grave and she wants to shut you down. No. Don't do it. Don't try to find a solution in a glass of alcohol, I think you should give her your reasons and give her an ultimatum and go on with your life. I know you love her, but seriously, she doesn't care about your reasons (which are logical and natural) and she doesn't want to understand. My suggestion is: move on with your life. Perhaps a time on her own makes her realise that you are way more important than stupid spiritual ideas. Yes, I Iove her very much. The intimacy we once shared is no longer there, but my urges are very strong at times. I am really stuck. I want to satisfy my urges, but, at the same time I can't imagine leaving her. She is so good to me. Self-pleasure does nothing for me. I am not with her during this, and I can not image another person to "complete", so, nothing happens. Basically, I'm screwed. I'm not at all asking for any type of sympathy, as I suspect I am by no means alone(male or female) in this "Catch-22" problem. I guess all I can do now is vent frustration, and thank you ALL for listening. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
little_dreamer Posted January 31, 2014 #134 Share Posted January 31, 2014 Maybe you could take a vacation away from her. Not a permanent break. Being in a different environment might help you put things in a different perspective. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrBene Posted January 31, 2014 #135 Share Posted January 31, 2014 Little_dreamer has a valid point. Go away for a while mate, go visit a friend, do something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8th_wall Posted January 31, 2014 #136 Share Posted January 31, 2014 How long has she been uninterested in intercourse? If it is for more than 3 months then if you don't mind me asking how old are you guys? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pallidin Posted February 1, 2014 Author #137 Share Posted February 1, 2014 (edited) How long has she been uninterested in intercourse? If it is for more than 3 months then if you don't mind me asking how old are you guys? Her interest has gone completely away about 15 years ago(in the start for the first 2 years it was just fine) We have not had sex in 15 years. Yeah, it's a bear, because I love her so much. I'm 50, she's plus 50 now. But I love her so much. Edited February 1, 2014 by pallidin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
little_dreamer Posted February 3, 2014 #138 Share Posted February 3, 2014 (Gasps..) OK I'm kind of speechless. You are one patient man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ReaperS_ParadoX Posted February 3, 2014 #139 Share Posted February 3, 2014 So you guys aren't married? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Id3al Experience Posted February 3, 2014 #140 Share Posted February 3, 2014 15 yrs? Oh snap I didnt realise its that long. I assumed this was recent. How did you for 15 yrs put up with it, But only now talking about it? after about 2 yrs, I would have been like - woman, you ant had sex with me, you are either cheating on me, or uninterested.then I would have walked. If my partner cannot respect my wishes, I will not accomedate hers. Full stop. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pallidin Posted February 3, 2014 Author #141 Share Posted February 3, 2014 So you guys aren't married? No. We both have been before. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pallidin Posted February 3, 2014 Author #142 Share Posted February 3, 2014 (Gasps..) OK I'm kind of speechless. You are one patient man. Or a complete idiot. But, I Iove her... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pallidin Posted February 4, 2014 Author #143 Share Posted February 4, 2014 (edited) Or a complete idiot. But, I Iove her... I just talked with her. She claims that I am not "spiritualy bonded" with her. This was after i asked why do not we have sex anymore. So, like everyone is telling me, I have a serious problem with this relationship. Damn. Edited February 4, 2014 by pallidin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Id3al Experience Posted February 4, 2014 #144 Share Posted February 4, 2014 I just talked with her. She claims that I am not "spiritualy bonded" with her. This was after i asked why do not we have sex anymore. So, like everyone is telling me, I have a serious problem with this relationship. Damn. Unfortunality my friend it seems so :S sorry you seem like to good a man Mr Pallidin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eldorado Posted February 4, 2014 #145 Share Posted February 4, 2014 I just talked with her. She claims that I am not "spiritualy bonded" with her. This was after i asked why do not we have sex anymore. So, like everyone is telling me, I have a serious problem with this relationship. Damn. Nah. I never knew it was 15yrs when I said stuff earlier. I feel for you. Have you tried getting her drunk or using the old chloroform trick? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pallidin Posted February 4, 2014 Author #146 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Thank you. I need to end this. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pallidin Posted February 4, 2014 Author #147 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Nah. I never knew it was 15yrs when I said stuff earlier. I feel for you. Have you tried getting her drunk or using the old chloroform trick? She doesn't drink at all. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pallidin Posted February 4, 2014 Author #148 Share Posted February 4, 2014 No disrespect of her, but this issue is hurting me a great deal. I am seriously stuck. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eldorado Posted February 4, 2014 #149 Share Posted February 4, 2014 That's not fair on you at all, amigo. I have no idea what I'd do in your position. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skep B Posted February 4, 2014 #150 Share Posted February 4, 2014 (edited) Have you tried getting her drunk or using the old chloroform trick? She doesn't drink at all. ...also thats a little thing called rape. generally looked down upon Edited February 4, 2014 by Kelevra 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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