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[Redefining Success]

Some of you may remember an update i posted, along the lines of "never did i imagine that what has happened would happen"?

Allow me to elaborate, but since then, i feel like a weight has been lifted, everything seems a bit nicer and i dont have a rain cloud following me.

Nigh on 10 years ago, was the last time i had contact with my daughter, i could of tried harder, but i wasn't going to be a doormat anymore, there is only so much a person can do in the circumstances and with great sadness i decided severing all ties was the better option, not only for the sake of my health, but also for the upbringing of my daughter as mummy and daddy arguing all the time and myself not being allowed to see her was not for the eyes of such a young child. 

She lived at the time, in the west coast Highlands of Scotland, some 9 hours away(could be done in 6), so popping round at the weekend wasn't really an option due to cost and lack of funds and the health of my dad.

So a couple of weeks ago, i was sorting my dad's WiFi and he mentioned that my little girl, now 14, has been emailing him for the last week. 

I got her email and finally replied the next day, i didn't know what to write and naturally we have progressed to phoning and texting, every night at 9 o'clock, we natter away for at least an hour. 

I'm impressed by her maturity, she has no interest in what has happened, she knows things don't work out, wrongs were done on both sides and i told her i was essentially a boy trying to be a man(21 at the time).

It's still early days, taking one step at a time.

I could go on and on and on, but i wont, i just wanted to share it with you all.

RS.

[Claire.]

I too am impressed with your daughter's maturity and understanding. She sounds lovely.

 

 

[glorybebe]

Sometimes a break puts into perspective what is important.  

[JVG]

That's a very level headed daughter you have...Good luck with future meetings you both deserve to be in each other's life...

[Redefining Success]

Thanks guys, 

 

She may be going to a concert in Manchester in a few months, so it would naturally be a chance to meet up, she was scared of telling me incase i didn't want too and mess things up at home. It's all I've wanted for the past 10 years. 

Small steps and there is no rush, she is back in my life.

 

[Claire.]

Please keep us posted. Fingers crossed that everything works out as you both want it to. All the best.

[LV-426]

There's so much negative news around these days, it's always good to hear positives.

Hope everything works out for you and your lass

[JVG]

3 hours ago, Redefining Success said:

Thanks guys, 

 

She may be going to a concert in Manchester in a few months, so it would naturally be a chance to meet up, she was scared of telling me incase i didn't want too and mess things up at home. It's all I've wanted for the past 10 years. 

Small steps and there is no rush, she is back in my life.

 

 

Wishing the best for you and your daughter...

[Redefining Success]

Thanks again guys.

 

Seems the concert has sold out. 

As I've explained to her, we have loads of time, want her to concentrate on school for the time being. 

[Redefining Success]

Little update,

She is having problems at school, as it's an academy, the head doesn't the way to the name tarnished, so it seems the victim is the criminal. 

Any who,

She needs to get away, so, she will be staying with us for a week or two, on Saturday! 

Got so much to sort! 

Edited June 5, 2017 by Redefining Success

[Regency]

I haven't been on this forum in ages, but I'm really pleased you reached out to your daughter - hope everything works out for you all.