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Obese man escapes into virtual world

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OverSword

I think my question is, were it not for the virtual world he can escape to would he have the motivation to do something about his condition?

 

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spartan max2

Dam, I think without games he would escape to T.V, without T.V maybe radio or reading? without those two things idk.It is a question for the ages. 

My question, which could be answered because I didn't watch the video, is how he affords to live? does he get disability? or does he mooch off of someone?

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ExpandMyMind
36 minutes ago, OverSword said:

I think my question is, were it not for the virtual world he can escape to would he have the motivation to do something about his condition?

No. You don't get to that state by having any motivation at all. 

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Tatetopa

He lives with his dad. His mom (divorced?) said, "to live in my house, you need to have a job". So he moved to his dad's.  They eat together and he has been gaining weight ever since.  From the video math, another 200 pounds since he stopped working. I don't think that he would overcome his problem without video games.  He might find another way to escape or just be miserable, but he doesn't seem to want change.  

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ouija ouija

When you're that big, I imagine it's impossible to face the task of getting all the weight off. It must seem like an insurmountable problem.

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Kenemet
28 minutes ago, ouija ouija said:

When you're that big, I imagine it's impossible to face the task of getting all the weight off. It must seem like an insurmountable problem.

I have a friend who weighs over 500 lbs... and it's medical/biological.  He's had surgery, he is active, he's more careful about what he eats than I am about what I eat.  I believe that the lightest weight he's been in the past 20 years is around 400 lbs. It's caused a lot of problems for him (he does work, he's self-supporting, but he hates to go out in public because he's treated like a freak.)

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sci-nerd

We don't know how it is to be him, and we forget how easy it is to get caught in a bad downwards spiral that reenforces itself.

Everybody seeks pleasure in reward. From a simple thing like chasing 'likes' on social media, to hazardous drug abuse. We all seek that reward. He found it in food. Probably because his brain is wired to get extreme pleasure from eating.

Now his reality has become so overwhelmingly unmanageable, that he can only survive mentally by escaping to fiction. And by giving himself the pleasure of eating.

As it always is with humans, others cannot solve our problems. You can't help someone who isn't ready. The urge to seek help must derive from within.

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57 minutes ago, spartan max2 said:

Dam, I think without games he would escape to T.V, without T.V maybe radio or reading? without those two things idk.It is a question for the ages. 

My question, which could be answered because I didn't watch the video, is how he affords to live? does he get disability? or does he mooch off of someone?

People whose relationship with food is so destructive that they can become as large as this man, are mentally ill.  Those who enjoy being vicious about these people and like telling the world that they should "exercise some control" or "put down the donuts" or whatever, are either speaking out of ignorance or spite.  Not a lot of middle ground here.  This guy has at least one enabler in his life who "loves" him and wants him to be happy.  That person sees his torment and doesn't want to add to it but they are misguided and will be as guilty of his suffering and eventual death as HE IS.  

I'm surprised that the nanny state hasn't begun criminalizing such behaviors or cutting these morbidly, suicidally obese people off from care.  Thankfully, they are a rare group and probably don't get seen in the system until they're near death anyway.  What a depressing, dark, existence for a human being who literally cannot see a way out.  These people are the equivalent of low-bottom alcoholics.  They are hopeless and waiting to die.  I wish for all of them at least one "moment of clarity" where they can come out of the illusion and find someone willing to help them down the path to a life.

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7 minutes ago, Kenemet said:

I have a friend who weighs over 500 lbs... and it's medical/biological.  He's had surgery, he is active, he's more careful about what he eats than I am about what I eat.  I believe that the lightest weight he's been in the past 20 years is around 400 lbs. It's caused a lot of problems for him (he does work, he's self-supporting, but he hates to go out in public because he's treated like a freak.)

My top weight was 383 lbs on a 6' frame.  It was the most soul-crushing experience you can imagine.  I was miserable at all times and I cannot even imagine going to the next level as this poor guy has done.  I have just as much pity in my heart for the morbidly obese as I do for Cancer patients and the mentally ill.  NO human being willingly chooses such a life just to satisfy a craving for food.  The food becomes an escape, then a crutch, then the food IS their life, such as remains to them.  Tell your friend to never give up.  His day WILL COME!

 

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Piney
2 hours ago, OverSword said:

I think my question is, were it not for the virtual world he can escape to would he have the motivation to do something about his condition?

Darwinism works......

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Piney
52 minutes ago, sci-nerd said:

Everybody seeks pleasure in reward. From a simple thing like chasing 'likes' on social media, to hazardous drug abuse. We all seek that reward. He found it in food. Probably because his brain is wired to get extreme pleasure from eating.

It's a dopamine hit like everything else addictive.

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OverSword
4 minutes ago, Piney said:

It's a dopamine hit like everything else addictive.

True.  It's why I walk 6 miles a day since getting a fitbit.

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Impedancer

You cant escape yourself if you try reality always comes back and hit you even harder in the face. And this guy cant escape anything... yes funny joke i am also obese and stocky built but not that people would notice or care, and i do keep fit however this guy needs help. 

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Piney
1 minute ago, OverSword said:

True.  It's why I walk 6 miles a day since getting a fitbit.

My friend's son went from food, to every drug available, to alcohol, to social media. I told him. He's addicted to the dopamine hit's pure and simple. 

My dopamine hits are sparing and use to be my skateboard, Mongoose stunt bike, riding crazy horses and dirt bike....and guarding idiots who start fights in clubs. They come from straight up adrenaline

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sci-nerd
5 minutes ago, Piney said:

My friend's son went from food, to every drug available, to alcohol, to social media. I told him. He's addicted to the dopamine hit's pure and simple. 

My dopamine hits are sparing and use to be my skateboard, Mongoose stunt bike, riding crazy horses and dirt bike....and guarding idiots who start fights in clubs. They come from straight up adrenaline

I think the guy in this OP went public as a cry for help. I can't imagine why else he would.

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Impedancer
56 minutes ago, and then said:

My top weight was 383 lbs on a 6' frame.  It was the most soul-crushing experience you can imagine.  I was miserable at all times and I cannot even imagine going to the next level as this poor guy has done.  I have just as much pity in my heart for the morbidly obese as I do for Cancer patients and the mentally ill.  NO human being willingly chooses such a life just to satisfy a craving for food.  The food becomes an escape, then a crutch, then the food IS their life, such as remains to them.  Tell your friend to never give up.  His day WILL COME!

 

I am 158 tall and quite stocky built and have weighed at most approx 140 kg which is way too much!! the funny thing is that this was when i played american football and had hard exercise three times a week, i think they encouraged us Defense tackles to eat too much ;-)  i later lost weight but put it back on after i stoped playing . And one day i realised i couldn't run or power walk 500 meters without losing my breath and decided it was time to do something about it,and started to practice martial arts and Krav Maga that was 8 years ago. 

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Impedancer
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27 minutes ago, Piney said:

My friend's son went from food, to every drug available, to alcohol, to social media. I told him. He's addicted to the dopamine hit's pure and simple. 

My dopamine hits are sparing and use to be my skateboard, Mongoose stunt bike, riding crazy horses and dirt bike....and guarding idiots who start fights in clubs. They come from straight up adrenaline

Dopamin Yes its the reason why some people become daredevils ,or run ultra marathons its also an asset depending on how you use it its the reason why i started with american football in my youth and later Krav Maga :-) 

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Podo

I don't see this as a positive story. This guy has a serious issue, and "escaping" into a videogame isn't the solution. He needs to see a doctor, an addictions counselor, and very possibly a psychologist.

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