A World Without Social Media

[Dejarma]

3 minutes ago, Ruby04 said:

NOPE you have no say in what others say mate 

then no one would talk to anyone in a place like this= i suggested leave it.. i'd suggest you do that

Edited March 24, 2019 by Dejarma

[Dejarma]

1 minute ago, Aquila King said:

Never in the history of calm down has anyone calmed down by being told to calm down. 

i don't care

[Aquila King]

5 minutes ago, Dejarma said:

then no one would talk to anyone in a place like this= i suggested leave it.. i'd suggest you do that

 

4 minutes ago, Dejarma said:

i don't care

 

Well with that I think it's perfectly clear you aren't genuinely trying to calm anyone down. Instead you're just riling them up. 

Anyway, imma leave it at that. I'm actively trying to avoid any unnecessary drama on here as much as I can.

Edited March 24, 2019 by Aquila King

[Dejarma]

1 minute ago, Aquila King said:

 

 

Well with that I think it's perfectly clear you aren't genuinely trying to calm anyone down. Instead you're just riling them up. 

Anyway, imma leave it at that. I'm actively trying to avoid any unnecessary drama on here as much as I can.

what meant was i dont really care what Habitat has to say- but there ya go, have fun

[Habitat]

16 minutes ago, Dejarma said:

i dont really care what Habitat has to say-

LOL !

[Dejarma]

12 minutes ago, Habitat said:

LOL !

i luv ya really, Habs me 'ol mate

[LightAngel]

22 hours ago, Goddess of the Mist said:

Well I come from a time before it existed, and I can tell you from experience that I think life was better before.  People called each other, wrote letters, and stopped by each others' houses. Friends were actual friends...in real life! 

 

Good post! 

However....

Technology isn't the problem.

Flaws in human nature are the problem!

It's how some people use technology that can create problems for them. Some people are addicted to drugs, others are addicted to technology.

If people only know people online, then who will be there if they need help in "real life" etc.?! 

It's important to create balance in our life.

So, control technology ….... never let it control you. 

 

[Dejarma]

22 hours ago, Goddess of the Mist said:

 People called each other, wrote letters, and stopped by each others' houses. Friends were actual friends...in real life! 

yeah, people still do that now what are you on about!? if you honestly think they don't then i've no idea what to say to someone like you, apart from 'you don't live in my world' all due respect

[Habitat]

Letters ? I haven't written a social letter for many years, they are a victim mainly of affordable phone calls.

[Luca-RoseElsie-Raemom1921]

13 minutes ago, LightAngel said:

 

Good post! 

However....

Technology isn't the problem.

Flaws in human nature are the problem!

It's how some people use technology that can create problems for them. Some people are addicted to drugs, others are addicted to technology.

If people only know people online, then who will be there if they need help in "real life" etc.?! 

It's important to create balance in our life.

So, control technology ….... never let it control you. 

 

Very well said (like most of your posts), online friends can become in person friends. 

There was a case of a guy who only had gaming friends, he suddenly disappeared for a few days and his friends (in different countries) contacted police and had them wellness check him. Turned out guy had bad fall or something and they were able to help him. 

 

My friend Shell I met through a for fun pet page on Facebook, friends for almost 2 years (video and voice calls) before meeting in person.

i hope your day/night is a great one  

[LightAngel]

11 minutes ago, Ruby04 said:

Very well said (like most of your posts), online friends can become in person friends. 

There was a case of a guy who only had gaming friends, he suddenly disappeared for a few days and his friends (in different countries) contacted police and had them wellness check him. Turned out guy had bad fall or something and they were able to help him. 

 

My friend Shell I met through a for fun pet page on Facebook, friends for almost 2 years (video and voice calls) before meeting in person.

i hope your day/night is a great one  

 

Thank you..... same to you. 

[LightAngel]

4 hours ago, and then said:

angry people USING the technology.  

 

One thing that can get on my nerves is when people hide behind technology, and then offend others for no reason at all!

Cowards!  

If you ever meet them in real life, then you would probably see some very insecure people in desperate need of anger management. 

 

[Luca-RoseElsie-Raemom1921]

Just now, LightAngel said:

 

One thing that can get on my nerves is when people hide behind technology, and then offend others for no reason at all!

Cowards!  

If you ever meet them in real life, then you would probably see some very insecure people in desperate need of anger management. 

 

Ex friend of my oldest sister her daughter was running her mouth off online (8 years ago), how if she saw my sister or any of my sisters family in person she’d blast them. 

This 16 year old brat and her, ran in to my mom and I said nothing to us. 

Where as I live by say it online or behind their back, make sure you would say face to face. 

[+and-then]

I agree and I can be guilty of that myself, especially when I'm particularly angry about insolent posts by others.  I think anonymity is worn by most people like a shield that provides them with unwonted bravado.  Sober people tend to be quite polite when they interact with their peers, simply because they don't want to be called out with consequences for rudeness.  In a mature setting with good moderators and topics that enhance the exchange of valuable, interesting information, social media is a blessing.  Otherwise, it's just an opportunity to vent petty spleens  

[freetoroam]

4 hours ago, Ruby04 said:

I WAS A HERMIT WITHOUT IT. 

Please DONT TRY TELLING ME HOW MY LIFE HAPPENED. 

IT WAS ONLINE THAT HELPED ME THANKYOU

Wow easy Ruby. I was pointing out that you can not miss what you do not know and life can go on without social media. 

Remember the human population did not reach its current population with the help of social media.

4 hours ago, Ruby04 said:

OR DONT TELL A PERSON WHAT TO CALM DOWN! 

ESPECIALLY ONE IN EARLY LABOUR IN PAIN. 

As for higher case what higher case 

Maybe you should be swithing off while you are in the early stages of labour.

Higher case btw means CAPS ON.

Peace. 

 

[freetoroam]

4 hours ago, Ruby04 said:

IT WAS ONLINE THAT HELPED ME THANKYOU

Social media has helped a lot of people.

When you have your baby, it will change you again as you should find that the biggest % of your time will be spent with your new child and not so much on social media. ( i hope ). 

[LucidElement]

On 3/23/2019 at 6:56 AM, Not Your Huckleberry said:

What's wrong with social media? Nothing. People have more or less been the same. Sure, you have some that are addicted to it, but whatever. I don't use it myself, but people are just people.

Yes, bad or "fake" news spreads through social media. Guess what? So does good news; bringing legitimate issues to light; crowd funding for people, business ventures and other causes that may have been totally unavailable otherwise; positive networking; allowing smaller, independent business start ups to thrive, etc. 

Why the **** am I so positive this morning?

I believe social media is bad.. it has helped recruit individuals toward terrorist organizations by them being able to express their ideals. It has lead to jealousy, and even cyber bullying which has in-turn led to suicides.

Please spend all their free time on social media trying to get followers and replies at any cost. And sadly, the cost is people arguing, trollers, suicides, even killings.

Lady Gaga was just talking about how she utterly believes that social media is the toilet of the world. But there are for sure more negatives then positives regarding social media.

[LucidElement]

On 3/23/2019 at 9:20 PM, Dejarma said:

hows that? social media has nothing to do with the amount of evil in the world= social media allows you to know of the crap things going on of which you'd have no idea about without social media or any media

Social media has a lot to do with evil. Sure it falls on the individual to make the decisions if they want to follow these terrorist organization, but ISIS and other groups use social media to bait individuals to coming to the dark side.

Like i said previously, cyber bullying is a big issue and that leads to suicide for someone who is not mentally strong or does not how to ignore people.

Its not so much the "articles" that are post on social media, its more the comments that people say, the types of brainwashing that goes on through it. The crap talking to people (people think their tough and mighty behind a computer screen or cell phone keyboard but honestly, meeting people in person , the same people that are "bullies" and smart asses... those people in real life i guarantee (majority of them) would never have enough cahonees to speak to someone that way... Social media is primarily a way to shade yourself from the real world.

[spartan max2]

Without social media you wouldn't be able to post this right now lol

I count UM as a form of social media and all the other sties that allow people to find those similar to them in hobbies, beliefs, etc. 

I think social media has done more good then harm. 

Edited March 25, 2019 by spartan max2

[spartan max2]

14 minutes ago, LucidElement said:

I believe social media is bad.. it has helped recruit individuals toward terrorist organizations by them being able to express their ideals. It has lead to jealousy, and even cyber bullying which has in-turn led to suicides.

Please spend all their free time on social media trying to get followers and replies at any cost. And sadly, the cost is people arguing, trollers, suicides, even killings.

Lady Gaga was just talking about how she utterly believes that social media is the toilet of the world. But there are for sure more negatives then positives regarding social media.

Terrorism, bullying, jealousy, and suicide all existed before social media .

 

[LucidElement]

5 minutes ago, spartan max2 said:

Terrorism, bullying, jealousy, and suicide all existed before social media .

 

True, but not on the level it is now. Terrorist cells pray on social media to recruit individuals.

Online bullying is terrible, many suicides have happened due to it. Im not sure how somoene could kill themselves from being cyber bullied however it turns out it is a major issue.

Also, UM is a form of social media because we are interacting with others. I've seen people go at it on this site , more so then not and especially over the later years. When i joined this site in 2003, it was a completely different online world. Now it is above and beyond. I agree social media is an entertaining way for individuals to read articles and gossip. What i dont agree is how people hide behind social media to look "feel and look" tougher then they really are in real life. Someone said earlier that there was a cyber bully female who talked a lot of crap to these people, then they saw them out and about and they were nothing like they were online.

I wish social media had a filter that could filter of the fake and B'S people vs. People that are more in tune with themselves and others. People get off on making people feel bad and being an a-hole. Social media is FILLED with them. And to circle back, these people that get off on making people feel bad and trying to bully others.... in real life, they are dorky, shy, awkward people. (Not all of them but a good majority) . I say that because no one should entertain themselves by being a complete A-hole online but then in real life be someone different.

[spartan max2]

8 minutes ago, LucidElement said:

True, but not on the level it is now. Terrorist cells pray on social media to recruit individuals.

Online bullying is terrible, many suicides have happened due to it. Im not sure how somoene could kill themselves from being cyber bullied however it turns out it is a major issue.

Also, UM is a form of social media because we are interacting with others. I've seen people go at it on this site , more so then not and especially over the later years. When i joined this site in 2003, it was a completely different online world. Now it is above and beyond. I agree social media is an entertaining way for individuals to read articles and gossip. What i dont agree is how people hide behind social media to look "feel and look" tougher then they really are in real life. Someone said earlier that there was a cyber bully female who talked a lot of crap to these people, then they saw them out and about and they were nothing like they were online.

I wish social media had a filter that could filter of the fake and B'S people vs. People that are more in tune with themselves and others. People get off on making people feel bad and being an a-hole. Social media is FILLED with them. And to circle back, these people that get off on making people feel bad and trying to bully others.... in real life, they are dorky, shy, awkward people. (Not all of them but a good majority) . I say that because no one should entertain themselves by being a complete A-hole online but then in real life be someone different.

It is called the "block" or "ignore" or "unfollow" button.

I do not disagree with the bad points you listed, however I think you are grossly overlooking the positive impact.

Old problems utilize new technology  just like new solutions utilize new technology.

I am curious, from your perspective, what are the positive impacts of social media if any?

Edited March 25, 2019 by spartan max2

[LucidElement]

1 hour ago, spartan max2 said:

It is called the "block" or "ignore" or "unfollow" button.

I do not disagree with the bad points you listed, however I think you are grossly overlooking the positive impact.

Old problems utilize new technology  just like new solutions utilize new technology.

I am curious, from your perspective, what are the positive impacts of social media if any?

Social media in a postive light is tougher for me to answer since I don't use any of it. Not for being against it, just never got into it. Never really cared what individuals thought and even with Facebook, i talk to people on the phone, personally i dont really care what the people i went to High School or College with are doing lol. I keep in touch with a bunch of people, just not through social media apps. I really get turned off when i see the younger generation (im 34) but like my niece and nephew - the teenager population, just idolizing these celebrities and reality stars like Kardashian. These celebrities do nothing to show a positive reflection to kids these days, (sure they donate to charities) but they just show them a life that is more of a fairy tale then reality for most.

 

That being said, if i had to say some positives, i would say its good for small business to help advertise. It also helps people share ideas among each other but then on the flip side to that - it could turn out those people begin criticizing or bullying each other. You could always block or unfollow that person but the fact of the matter is that the negative attitude is out there and it floods social media. Think about this, there are people on this board, way way more then there were when i joined that enjoy talking down on people, and critizing people. Saru and the UM gang do a lot of good to prevent that from happening, but the fact is that those individuals are out there and they enjoy screwing with peoples minds and feelings. But in reality these people are cowards and in real life face to face they would be someone different. Social media for most is a disguise for who the person really is... How can someone find themselves if all they do is hide behind the computer and tweets?

Not to many positive aspects for me regarding social media buddy, I would say its good for small community information, information in general (if you don't watch documentaries or news). But mainstream twitter & Instagram - when people have full on discussions and rebuttals toward the discussion/articles at hand, that is where i find the most negative aspect of social media.

Which goes back to my original post question - It would be interesting to see a comparison of suicide rates and violence before and after the invent of social media.

Someone made a good point earlier - if the large corporations pulled social media off the grid for 24-48hours . no Facebook, no twitter, no Instagram it would be very interesting to see what people would do, especially the younger generation. Every time you go to dinner you know you see a bunch of kids playing on their cellphones or checking their social media. That could be a parenting issue, but it also reflects on someones post earlier where they said , that some of the younger generation have a tough time formulating thoughts or looking the person they are talking to in the eye. I think the creation of social media has made society fundamentally lazy.

Edited March 25, 2019 by LucidElement

[spartan max2]

14 minutes ago, LucidElement said:

Social media in a postive light is tougher for me to answer since I don't use any of it. Not for being against it, just never got into it. Never really cared what individuals thought and even with Facebook, i talk to people on the phone, personally i dont really care what the people i went to High School or College with are doing lol. I keep in touch with a bunch of people, just not through social media apps. I really get turned off when i see the younger generation (im 34) but like my niece and nephew - the teenager population, just idolizing these celebrities and reality stars like Kardashian. These people do nothing to reflect the kids these days, they just shoe them a life that is more of a fairy tale.

 

That being said, if i had to say some positives, i would say its good for small business to help advertise. It also helps people share ideas among each other but then on the flip side to that - it could turn out those people begin criticizing or bullying each other. You could always block or unfollow that person but the fact of the matter is that the negative attitude is out there and it floods social media. Think about this, there are people on this board, way way more then there were when i joined that enjoy talking down on people, and critizing people. Saru and the UM gang do a lot of good to prevent that from happening, but the fact is that those individuals are out there and they enjoy screwing with peoples minds and feelings. But in reality these people are cowards and in real life face to face they would be someone different. Social media for most is a disguise for who the person really is... How can someone find themselves if all they do is hide behind the computer and tweets?

Not to many positive aspects for me regarding social media buddy, I would say its good for small community information, information in general (if you don't watch documentaries or news). But mainstream twitter & Instagram - when people have full on discussions and rebuttals toward the discussion/articles at hand, that is where i find the most negative aspect of social media.

Which goes back to my original post question - it would be interesting to see the violence & suicide rate after the creation of social media - vs - before.

Thanks for the reply. I'm 25 so I think we are similar generations but still different, social media and the internet was more prominent when I was growing up, I remember in middle school when texting really first became a thing lol.

Off the top of my head I know that since the 90's violence has gone down and suicide has gone up. These trends started before social media prominence though so it's hard to say what role it plays. 

I think social media does a great job of normalizing the human experience, it helps mental health awareness, puts words to feelings we often all feel that we do not realize everyone feels. 

I remember as a teenager being able to type in the internet "is it normal to "insert feelings, behavior, emotion, situation here". I know that many youth probably do that now. Helping those who feel isolated or confused when those around them might not understand. For example the gay community? I bet social media has helped those youth tons, those with clinical depression, PTSD ect. They can find others who experience what they do.

On reddit for example I am on a subreddit for my profession, for games I like, youtubers I like, etc. It creates communities around things we enjoy. It has been a great way for me to find people numbers when phones change also lol.

Lots of breaking news stories come from people using social media to make a fuss about a problem and bring awareness to it. It gives people more of a voice.

I do agree that there have been some negative aspects of it though, people comparing themselves to others "highlights" all the time can be harmful for those with low self-esteem. 

Edited March 25, 2019 by spartan max2

[LucidElement]

19 hours ago, spartan max2 said:

Thanks for the reply. I'm 25 so I think we are similar generations but still different, social media and the internet was more prominent when I was growing up, I remember in middle school when texting really first became a thing lol.

Off the top of my head I know that since the 90's violence has gone down and suicide has gone up. These trends started before social media prominence though so it's hard to say what role it plays. 

I think social media does a great job of normalizing the human experience, it helps mental health awareness, puts words to feelings we often all feel that we do not realize everyone feels. 

I remember as a teenager being able to type in the internet "is it normal to "insert feelings, behavior, emotion, situation here". I know that many youth probably do that now. Helping those who feel isolated or confused when those around them might not understand. For example the gay community? I bet social media has helped those youth tons, those with clinical depression, PTSD ect. They can find others who experience what they do.

On reddit for example I am on a subreddit for my profession, for games I like, youtubers I like, etc. It creates communities around things we enjoy. It has been a great way for me to find people numbers when phones change also lol.

Lots of breaking news stories come from people using social media to make a fuss about a problem and bring awareness to it. It gives people more of a voice.

I do agree that there have been some negative aspects of it though, people comparing themselves to others "highlights" all the time can be harmful for those with low self-esteem. 

nicely said. so pros and cons. real catch 22 lol.