dream jo Posted January 23 #76 Share Posted January 23 48 minutes ago, bmk1245 said: I hope your relations with your mum were good. Mine with mine... not so much... For more than 30 years I distanced (tried) from her... Despotic woman with 'God complex', 'Goody two shoes', relations wrecker, person who shoves "good" down your throat (like it or not)... Anyway, regression is progressing... Whole day she was roaming rooms without problems (plus walking half mile in the morning), ripped paper with "I'm at work, will return at 18:00", made a mess in the kitchen (don't worry, gas pipes are closed), and just I came to her... "I can't walk" "I will have to walk on fours". Yet, walks to the fridge with usual rant on the loop "My sun is hungry, his fridge is empty, I have something to eat...." Oh boy, what tantrums tomorrow will bring... PS will try tomorrow "Neighbor stole your docs" schtick just to drive her attention from the fridge and food. She "remembers" that neighbor "stole" her "important documents" (what docs, she doesn't remember)... Kinda funny, confrontation with the neighbor over garbage in the past (mum used to leave garbage bags between the floors) turned into "He stole" .... .... Pampers ain't needed yet, but... soon... My mum was a lovely lady to dementia stole her brain because you can very agitate it very aggressive and accusing us creates printed all sorts of a which we didn't pinch anything offer she put things down and forgot to put him Even a few times the colour place on me it few times try to call a place of me please on me the place on the their police on me but like I said I miss my mom but I don't miss the dementia part she had Because my mom before the dementia she was so kind and loving and thoughtful in the end she forgot about was Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bmk1245 Posted January 23 Author #77 Share Posted January 23 13 minutes ago, dream jo said: My mum was a lovely lady to dementia stole her brain because you can very agitate it very aggressive and accusing us creates printed all sorts of a which we didn't pinch anything offer she put things down and forgot to put him Even a few times the colour place on me it few times try to call a place of me please on me the place on the their police on me but like I said I miss my mom but I don't miss the dementia part she had Because my mom before the dementia she was so kind and loving and thoughtful in the end she forgot about was Three to two dementia him brings to forest deep us created pinch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dream jo Posted January 23 #78 Share Posted January 23 5 minutes ago, bmk1245 said: Three to two dementia him brings to forest deep us created pinch. All I know is when before we switch before she went into the care home I was exhausted and drained because of the dementia because at times she put a bed and from half past ten at night go to bed to about seven o'clock in the morning should I be up every 30 minutes for my sister for my sister I was put appointment Monday I give the throat for my sister and my sister told about a girl a sister told about the Globe because it was two o'clock in the morning I'm washing it in that I know I should have not done that but I did because I was exhausted and drained and I know I've lost both of them three years apart my mum to dementia and my sister to cancer and my sisters who died my sister who died because phobia was getting dementia got cancer instead the last cancer killed a Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dream jo Posted January 23 #79 Share Posted January 23 I feltic god I never get this disease because I've got nobody does because my mom how did am I Uncle had it at the same time my mum's brother both lovely paper but dementia was Evil Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bmk1245 Posted January 24 Author #80 Share Posted January 24 Found the way to deal with "You are hungry, your fridge is empty, I won't eat" tantrum. I gave her carrots to mash, then I put all mashed stuff (with adds) in single bowl, and started to eat... She went "What about me? I want that too"))) Heh, don't mess with 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bmk1245 Posted January 30 Author #81 Share Posted January 30 Today was a very bad day... She tried strangle/hang herself with the scarf in the morning... When I came to her apartment, I found her wondering with swollen face, scarf around her neck, and red line around her neck, and blood from her right ear... She even dragged the chair under the coat hanger board... I almost passed out, good thing I didn't. 112... In hospital we went through the bunch of doctors (approx 5 hours), she was almost 'normal' except few outbursts. Then we went to psych ward, and then I realized - it is the end. I don't know how will she manage through all that cocktail of meds once again... Tomorrow I'll visit her, though not sure if I'll be able to see her. Well, I'm cynic, life is life, can't fight the nature for long... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+joc Posted January 30 #82 Share Posted January 30 8 minutes ago, bmk1245 said: Today was a very bad day... She tried strangle/hang herself with the scarf in the morning... When I came to her apartment, I found her wondering with swollen face, scarf around her neck, and red line around her neck, and blood from her right ear... She even dragged the chair under the coat hanger board... I almost passed out, good thing I didn't. 112... In hospital we went through the bunch of doctors (approx 5 hours), she was almost 'normal' except few outbursts. Then we went to psych ward, and then I realized - it is the end. I don't know how will she manage through all that cocktail of meds once again... Tomorrow I'll visit her, though not sure if I'll be able to see her. Well, I'm cynic, life is life, can't fight the nature for long... Life happens at the speed of life! It's now out of your hands. You did the best you could do. She has put herself in this position and it is what it is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bmk1245 Posted January 30 Author #83 Share Posted January 30 31 minutes ago, joc said: Life happens at the speed of life! It's now out of your hands. You did the best you could do. She has put herself in this position and it is what it is. Nope. Rolling back, you may find you could've done things better. For example, bringing her to the shop she was making ruckus in (toddler in the toy store), so I decided to fill her fridge 'secretly'. Though, in local market (flee kind) she would go "So many sellers, where are byers?", "OK, we will buy it", "Are you crazy???! You don't have money, You are hungry!", etc Oh boy... I could've shopping with her more often (despite all managers/counters/me being dead).... And yeah, Life happens at the speed of life! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+joc Posted January 30 #84 Share Posted January 30 1 hour ago, bmk1245 said: Nope. Rolling back, you may find you could've done things better. For example, bringing her to the shop she was making ruckus in (toddler in the toy store), so I decided to fill her fridge 'secretly'. Though, in local market (flee kind) she would go "So many sellers, where are byers?", "OK, we will buy it", "Are you crazy???! You don't have money, You are hungry!", etc Oh boy... I could've shopping with her more often (despite all managers/counters/me being dead).... And yeah, Life happens at the speed of life! We do what we do in the moment. Hindsight is always 20/20. You did the best you could! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bmk1245 Posted January 31 Author #85 Share Posted January 31 Visited her in wisdom house. For 15 minutes she was normal, then she went on the usual BS track... Ah, well, at least some sanity still resides there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bmk1245 Posted January 31 Author #86 Share Posted January 31 Finally, got 8+ hours sleep... And still have more. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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